Resentful - 10/02/19 04:46 PM
New here and looking for other people's thoughts.
I have been with my H for 14 yrs... married for 9.
I have 5 ddays. It all started 8-23-17 when I recieved a FB message. That is when my world came crashing down. He swore it was only her and I believed him. I forgave him. That affair was from nov 2015 - feb 2017. He lied about everything....i had to talk to her to get the story. But I refused to not listen to my gut again. So 3 months later I started digging. I became a very good private investigator.
On 12-24-17 I discovered the video on his laptop of him having sex with #2 in my spare bed.
Once again...him swearing only those 2. The dates for her were feb 2016- dec 25 2017. Yes he continued his non sexual friendship with her even after he got caught cheating. They stopped having sex nov 2016 when she discovered he was not in a sexless marriage. They were "friends". Talked, texted and went out for coffee. He lied about everything. I talked to her to get the story.
I continued digging... there has to be more!
On 8-21-18 I reinstalled a monogram app he had that he claims he never used. I did a password recovery ...low and behold.... money to #3. She was a prostitute from backpage. He was seeing her from Oct 2015 - july 2017. And of course he lied about everything. I contacted her and paid her for her time to get the story. Two days later he admitted to another backpage prostitute. She was may 2016 - june 2016.
So that was my original timeline. But where there are 4.... the are more right. Keep digging. He swears I know 98% of everything. No one night stands. Only those 4.....keep digging.
I ordered back credit card statements that i couldn't access online. And there it was... hotel visit in august 2014.
The timeline i knew was a lie. He started cheating Feb 2013 ....4 backpage prostitutes from 2013 - 2015.
Everything since dday has been lies. He has not owned anything except his one confession. 2 yrs of pure torture!!!
He spent $94K in 4.5 yrs... cash advances, loans, 401k loans, maxed out credit cards. Took them on shopping sprees, bought one a car, paid their phone bills, spending money, expensive gifts, met one of their friends and family and spent time with her 6 yr old. No protection. 1 miscarriage. A paternity test that I paid for on another birth. He watched me suffer with an std diagnosed with bv.... for 13 months! Sex in my bed with 3 of them.
Lies lies lies..... so many resentments.
But he loves me. Can't lose me. He lost himself..... and now he doesn't recognize that person. He is back to himself.
Well now I have changed.
I have been with my H for 14 yrs... married for 9.
I have 5 ddays. It all started 8-23-17 when I recieved a FB message. That is when my world came crashing down. He swore it was only her and I believed him. I forgave him. That affair was from nov 2015 - feb 2017. He lied about everything....i had to talk to her to get the story. But I refused to not listen to my gut again. So 3 months later I started digging. I became a very good private investigator.
On 12-24-17 I discovered the video on his laptop of him having sex with #2 in my spare bed.
Once again...him swearing only those 2. The dates for her were feb 2016- dec 25 2017. Yes he continued his non sexual friendship with her even after he got caught cheating. They stopped having sex nov 2016 when she discovered he was not in a sexless marriage. They were "friends". Talked, texted and went out for coffee. He lied about everything. I talked to her to get the story.
I continued digging... there has to be more!
On 8-21-18 I reinstalled a monogram app he had that he claims he never used. I did a password recovery ...low and behold.... money to #3. She was a prostitute from backpage. He was seeing her from Oct 2015 - july 2017. And of course he lied about everything. I contacted her and paid her for her time to get the story. Two days later he admitted to another backpage prostitute. She was may 2016 - june 2016.
So that was my original timeline. But where there are 4.... the are more right. Keep digging. He swears I know 98% of everything. No one night stands. Only those 4.....keep digging.
I ordered back credit card statements that i couldn't access online. And there it was... hotel visit in august 2014.
The timeline i knew was a lie. He started cheating Feb 2013 ....4 backpage prostitutes from 2013 - 2015.
Everything since dday has been lies. He has not owned anything except his one confession. 2 yrs of pure torture!!!
He spent $94K in 4.5 yrs... cash advances, loans, 401k loans, maxed out credit cards. Took them on shopping sprees, bought one a car, paid their phone bills, spending money, expensive gifts, met one of their friends and family and spent time with her 6 yr old. No protection. 1 miscarriage. A paternity test that I paid for on another birth. He watched me suffer with an std diagnosed with bv.... for 13 months! Sex in my bed with 3 of them.
Lies lies lies..... so many resentments.
But he loves me. Can't lose me. He lost himself..... and now he doesn't recognize that person. He is back to himself.
Well now I have changed.