Back here with a question - 09/16/05 03:32 AM
Hello All-
Haven't been on here in a long time. I have been divorced a little over 2 years now. I am 39 and my ex just turned 30. We have a 5 1/2 year old daughter. I have always wanted to get along with her, but it seems she is still bitter. She does play the "control" game with our daughter. She sees nothing she does as being wrong. I do let her push the buttons and of course I over react.
I have dated alot the last 2 years, but have never found that "special" someone. I know she has dated (unsuccesfully) too. No matter what has happened I know in my heart I still love her very much...and always will. Our anniversary just went by. I even called her on her birthday and wished her "happy Birthday".
She seems to really hate me, but others think it shows she still cares or she wouldnt still be so darn mad at me.
Anyway, I found out she is moving back to Omaha from Des Moines soon!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited, because of my daughter. I do have to say I am also excited because my ex is moving closer to me (yes, I live in Omaha).
My question is....what (if anything) can I do to "try" to let her see the new me. Her idea is "things were so bad she shouldve never married me in first place", but things were good too. I learned so much, but we havent been close enough for her to see that. Is there anything I can do to court her again....bring back the twinkle or feelings in her heart or is it gone? Good thing is...she has no one right now. She is 30, works alot and raises a 5 1/2 year old.
Any ideas or comments would be appreciated! Redhat....you still prowling around on here?
Alan
Haven't been on here in a long time. I have been divorced a little over 2 years now. I am 39 and my ex just turned 30. We have a 5 1/2 year old daughter. I have always wanted to get along with her, but it seems she is still bitter. She does play the "control" game with our daughter. She sees nothing she does as being wrong. I do let her push the buttons and of course I over react.
I have dated alot the last 2 years, but have never found that "special" someone. I know she has dated (unsuccesfully) too. No matter what has happened I know in my heart I still love her very much...and always will. Our anniversary just went by. I even called her on her birthday and wished her "happy Birthday".
She seems to really hate me, but others think it shows she still cares or she wouldnt still be so darn mad at me.
Anyway, I found out she is moving back to Omaha from Des Moines soon!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited, because of my daughter. I do have to say I am also excited because my ex is moving closer to me (yes, I live in Omaha).
My question is....what (if anything) can I do to "try" to let her see the new me. Her idea is "things were so bad she shouldve never married me in first place", but things were good too. I learned so much, but we havent been close enough for her to see that. Is there anything I can do to court her again....bring back the twinkle or feelings in her heart or is it gone? Good thing is...she has no one right now. She is 30, works alot and raises a 5 1/2 year old.
Any ideas or comments would be appreciated! Redhat....you still prowling around on here?
Alan