Questions about how to handle Christmas? - 11/20/05 03:08 PM
This will be the third Christmas since my STBXW moved out. The last two holidays I had STBX come over to my house and we had a day just like we did when we were together.
Last year I felt uncomfortable with it, it just seemed like I was holding on to the past and I felt like I was giving the kids the wrong impression about how things were. I felt like I was giving them false hopes about the future.
My STBX just called and wanted to know if I wanted to go shopping for the holidays today and put some things on lay-away. It's got me thinking about all this again. I don't like the idea of doing the holiday the same way again and I'm not sure if it's a legitimate concern or if I am simply wanting to make her face what she has done by making her plan her own holiday with the kids.
Sooner or later the holiday will have to be split. One or both of us is going to be with someone else at some point and then this arrangement will no longer work. Should I just wait until that time comes or go ahead and get it over with now?
Thanks,
starman
Last year I felt uncomfortable with it, it just seemed like I was holding on to the past and I felt like I was giving the kids the wrong impression about how things were. I felt like I was giving them false hopes about the future.
My STBX just called and wanted to know if I wanted to go shopping for the holidays today and put some things on lay-away. It's got me thinking about all this again. I don't like the idea of doing the holiday the same way again and I'm not sure if it's a legitimate concern or if I am simply wanting to make her face what she has done by making her plan her own holiday with the kids.
Sooner or later the holiday will have to be split. One or both of us is going to be with someone else at some point and then this arrangement will no longer work. Should I just wait until that time comes or go ahead and get it over with now?
Thanks,
starman