Unique WAWS Scenario- Help! - 05/28/18 11:07 PM
Hello all,
I need wise advice. We�ve been married 14 years and have four kids together. We started out pretty rough and have had several serious challenges along the way.
I was told last week that she didn�t know what to do and was no longer my wife beyond the legal description. It hit me hard, and I�ve been broken hearted since. I�ve been trying to do the things that I�ve neglected but she says it makes things worse.
After reading this forum, I decided there was hope and that I wasn�t alone in this phenomenon. HOWEVER, both my wife and I suspect I have mild Asperger Syndrome, that has made a lot of relational things more difficult. I think it�s a convenient scapegoat, but everything seems to rest on this condition for her.
I�m fighting like hell, but feeling really discouraged as I don�t suspect an actual affair, and wonder if I made things worse today when I told her I wasn�t leaving the house to �separate.� Apart from other advice, we�ve been sleeping in separate rooms and have only had sex 6-8 times in the last two years. I had hoped she would eventually invite me back to her room for months, but now I�m devastated.
Please help!
I need wise advice. We�ve been married 14 years and have four kids together. We started out pretty rough and have had several serious challenges along the way.
I was told last week that she didn�t know what to do and was no longer my wife beyond the legal description. It hit me hard, and I�ve been broken hearted since. I�ve been trying to do the things that I�ve neglected but she says it makes things worse.
After reading this forum, I decided there was hope and that I wasn�t alone in this phenomenon. HOWEVER, both my wife and I suspect I have mild Asperger Syndrome, that has made a lot of relational things more difficult. I think it�s a convenient scapegoat, but everything seems to rest on this condition for her.
I�m fighting like hell, but feeling really discouraged as I don�t suspect an actual affair, and wonder if I made things worse today when I told her I wasn�t leaving the house to �separate.� Apart from other advice, we�ve been sleeping in separate rooms and have only had sex 6-8 times in the last two years. I had hoped she would eventually invite me back to her room for months, but now I�m devastated.
Please help!