Thinking it's over - 09/05/20 11:55 AM
Hi everyone, I'm new here, but felt like this was a good place to get some very good opinions.
I'm not going to give an introduction or anything like that, as I am limited for time. Shortly though, my name is Cody, I'm 30, one step son (12), one biological(2.5). My wife and I have been together for 10 years (Married for 5).
Okay so here's the situation.
I am the sole bread-winner, supporting a family of 4 on $17.08/hr
I am all for spending time with my wife and kids, that's why I started a family... But now, it's to the point where I am not allowed to go out alone. If I simply ask to go fly my drone (by myself) she gets personally offended and acts like I just asked her to kiss another female. If I am trying to edit said drone pictures on my laptop then I'm ignoring her for my laptop, and if I try to post those pics anywhere (not IG as I'm not allowed to have one of those either) then I am ignoring her for my phone. She's worried I'm going to use my drone to look for girls in bikinis.
Her new phrase is, "phone, drone, laptop is all that's important to you"
I haven't even begun to explain friends and how I don't have any.
I have been forced to push all my old friends away (the same people I grew up with). I went to a private Christian School my entire life, and had the same 20 friends the entire time... Now, however I'm not allowed to talk to them. Using the word allowed would upset my wife, but when I get attitude for texting a friend from 15 years ago, how else should I perceive that, other than not being allowed. "Attitude" can be anything from rolling her eyes to full blown smacking the face of my phone saying, "everybody else is more important than me!"
I have ONE friend, that I met at work in January 2020. Him and I have become BEST OF FRIENDS, people at work think we are related, it's like that. However, if I text him outside of work, i get something like, "you spend all day with him, why do you have to text him outside of work? Don't you see each other enough?" Remember, this is the only friend I have right now.
Forget trying to go hang out with anybody. That is "ignoring" her.
Which brings me to my next point, ignoring.
If I do anything besides sit and wait for input from her, I'm ignoring her.
She's awake now, and I can't let her know I'm doing this. Sorry for cutting it short.
Thanks for any help!
I'm not going to give an introduction or anything like that, as I am limited for time. Shortly though, my name is Cody, I'm 30, one step son (12), one biological(2.5). My wife and I have been together for 10 years (Married for 5).
Okay so here's the situation.
I am the sole bread-winner, supporting a family of 4 on $17.08/hr
I am all for spending time with my wife and kids, that's why I started a family... But now, it's to the point where I am not allowed to go out alone. If I simply ask to go fly my drone (by myself) she gets personally offended and acts like I just asked her to kiss another female. If I am trying to edit said drone pictures on my laptop then I'm ignoring her for my laptop, and if I try to post those pics anywhere (not IG as I'm not allowed to have one of those either) then I am ignoring her for my phone. She's worried I'm going to use my drone to look for girls in bikinis.
Her new phrase is, "phone, drone, laptop is all that's important to you"
I haven't even begun to explain friends and how I don't have any.
I have been forced to push all my old friends away (the same people I grew up with). I went to a private Christian School my entire life, and had the same 20 friends the entire time... Now, however I'm not allowed to talk to them. Using the word allowed would upset my wife, but when I get attitude for texting a friend from 15 years ago, how else should I perceive that, other than not being allowed. "Attitude" can be anything from rolling her eyes to full blown smacking the face of my phone saying, "everybody else is more important than me!"
I have ONE friend, that I met at work in January 2020. Him and I have become BEST OF FRIENDS, people at work think we are related, it's like that. However, if I text him outside of work, i get something like, "you spend all day with him, why do you have to text him outside of work? Don't you see each other enough?" Remember, this is the only friend I have right now.
Forget trying to go hang out with anybody. That is "ignoring" her.
Which brings me to my next point, ignoring.
If I do anything besides sit and wait for input from her, I'm ignoring her.
She's awake now, and I can't let her know I'm doing this. Sorry for cutting it short.
Thanks for any help!