Spouse Seeking and platting Separation - 03/01/24 05:30 PM
Hello there Guys,
I am back after more than a year, when Dr. Harley personally assured me that my wife is seeking escape from me by affair or any other method.
Message from Dr. Harley on March 10, 2023
Your wife will eventually have another affair, and there is no way to stop her if that is her goal. Arranged marriages can work if both spouses are willing to do what it takes to make it work, but she has never really been on board. I don't think that she has ever wanted to be married to you, and has been looking for someone else to spend her life with. I don't see how your marriage can become anything other than a disaster for you because one spouse cannot save a marriage if the other is determined to be independent. He can be thoughtful, willing to meet her needs, and very committed, but in the end, he will find himself exhausted and depressed. Accepting her child from another man was incredibly generous and kind of you, but your generosity has been met with disrespect and disdain by her. You need to start thinking about ending this by revealing to everyone in your family that her child is actually the result of her affair with your cousin. That should get the ball rolling. Both Joyce and I are very saddened by what you have had to put up with. You don't deserve it.
Since Last March,
We moved away from Joint family of Brother and parents to leave by ourselves, since than she tactically abandoned me by going to Clubs, Bars, Restaurants alone with her work colleagues and isolating me by staying over night at friends house while I was babysitting our son during holidays.
I recently discovered an affair with work colleagues but she does not want me to talk to the AP, she says that she fell in love with him 4 months ago, but I know of this colleague since last year and I was warning her about their interactions on instagram and whatsapp from that point on.
She is sponsoring her parents to come over from India on travel visa, so they can babysit the child while she is seeking separation from me.
She wants top start a Restaurant partnership business with me despite seeking divorce from me, she wants her father to work there who doesn't have work permit and to sponsor her brother to come over on LMI work visa sponsored by the company when we own the business.
She seems very fake as always getting distressed about separation, resistance and being difficult while becoming all loving self the next moment when AP calls; is this normal?
what do you guys think of this situation? Should I try to save this marriage or its all in vain?
I am back after more than a year, when Dr. Harley personally assured me that my wife is seeking escape from me by affair or any other method.
Message from Dr. Harley on March 10, 2023
Your wife will eventually have another affair, and there is no way to stop her if that is her goal. Arranged marriages can work if both spouses are willing to do what it takes to make it work, but she has never really been on board. I don't think that she has ever wanted to be married to you, and has been looking for someone else to spend her life with. I don't see how your marriage can become anything other than a disaster for you because one spouse cannot save a marriage if the other is determined to be independent. He can be thoughtful, willing to meet her needs, and very committed, but in the end, he will find himself exhausted and depressed. Accepting her child from another man was incredibly generous and kind of you, but your generosity has been met with disrespect and disdain by her. You need to start thinking about ending this by revealing to everyone in your family that her child is actually the result of her affair with your cousin. That should get the ball rolling. Both Joyce and I are very saddened by what you have had to put up with. You don't deserve it.
Since Last March,
We moved away from Joint family of Brother and parents to leave by ourselves, since than she tactically abandoned me by going to Clubs, Bars, Restaurants alone with her work colleagues and isolating me by staying over night at friends house while I was babysitting our son during holidays.
I recently discovered an affair with work colleagues but she does not want me to talk to the AP, she says that she fell in love with him 4 months ago, but I know of this colleague since last year and I was warning her about their interactions on instagram and whatsapp from that point on.
She is sponsoring her parents to come over from India on travel visa, so they can babysit the child while she is seeking separation from me.
She wants top start a Restaurant partnership business with me despite seeking divorce from me, she wants her father to work there who doesn't have work permit and to sponsor her brother to come over on LMI work visa sponsored by the company when we own the business.
She seems very fake as always getting distressed about separation, resistance and being difficult while becoming all loving self the next moment when AP calls; is this normal?
what do you guys think of this situation? Should I try to save this marriage or its all in vain?