Walk away wife- ouch! - 02/03/03 03:59 PM
First post .
Hi to all.
I would like some advise please /her is my story:
Married 4 years and have a beautiful son.
Wife has had enough of past baggage and stress .She lives at parents place and we are seperated ( I just sold home and live in an apt nearby )
My job did not do well for awhile ( after my Mom died suddenly) Wife quit her job .. and yelled a lot.
My wife was unhappy and felt that I was not a good person- husband, etc.I even sold ALL my things/toys to pay off over 30,000 in debt!
We are in our 2 nd marriage for both of us.It is real dificult to make a blended family work with all the many people together - all wanting and needing .
I had many problems with 17 year old Daughter that hurt our chances of a new family growing .My W does not even want my D see our son . Wow.
It has been a hard Christmas to get thru.
I have gone banckrupt and have lost everyting that I have worked for / starting over and have a positive outlook towards many improvements of my self.I am stonger now but have no one to share my hopes & dreams with now.
I was hoping to make this journey with my wife by my side but it's not going in that direction . I have stopped all pressure and pursuit - my wife says let her be .
It's a stalemate of sorts...no D papers yet and no formal seperation agreement except equal care of son . ( which is going fine- I see him more now than when together )
It's been 6 month away from each other and I seem to be only one wishing to get back together .
I am not a bad person in any way and love my wife very much. I guess it will take time to heal all of the issues from the past that depleted her energy and trust.Most of OUR friends are not saying hi at all?
It hurts to see everyone from my past family sitting around ( with Wifes new friends/ mostly other WAW and divorced women )
They must travel in packs for healing .
Questions : What can I do to spark a change of heart in my wife?
When do I completely let her go ?
Am I at the point of going dark on her ?
Any creative ideas that may have worked for others in same situation?
Thanks, Terry
Hi to all.
I would like some advise please /her is my story:
Married 4 years and have a beautiful son.
Wife has had enough of past baggage and stress .She lives at parents place and we are seperated ( I just sold home and live in an apt nearby )
My job did not do well for awhile ( after my Mom died suddenly) Wife quit her job .. and yelled a lot.
My wife was unhappy and felt that I was not a good person- husband, etc.I even sold ALL my things/toys to pay off over 30,000 in debt!
We are in our 2 nd marriage for both of us.It is real dificult to make a blended family work with all the many people together - all wanting and needing .
I had many problems with 17 year old Daughter that hurt our chances of a new family growing .My W does not even want my D see our son . Wow.
It has been a hard Christmas to get thru.
I have gone banckrupt and have lost everyting that I have worked for / starting over and have a positive outlook towards many improvements of my self.I am stonger now but have no one to share my hopes & dreams with now.
I was hoping to make this journey with my wife by my side but it's not going in that direction . I have stopped all pressure and pursuit - my wife says let her be .
It's a stalemate of sorts...no D papers yet and no formal seperation agreement except equal care of son . ( which is going fine- I see him more now than when together )
It's been 6 month away from each other and I seem to be only one wishing to get back together .
I am not a bad person in any way and love my wife very much. I guess it will take time to heal all of the issues from the past that depleted her energy and trust.Most of OUR friends are not saying hi at all?
It hurts to see everyone from my past family sitting around ( with Wifes new friends/ mostly other WAW and divorced women )
They must travel in packs for healing .
Questions : What can I do to spark a change of heart in my wife?
When do I completely let her go ?
Am I at the point of going dark on her ?
Any creative ideas that may have worked for others in same situation?
Thanks, Terry