Hi isleepalone,
Bitter for allowing such disrespect? I'm a little confused with this. With my weeding vows, i gave, and made a promise, ....for better or for worse. Thru sickness and in health,,,
I'm aware of the fact there are 7n stages for recovery from divorce, maybe looking back and allowing different meanings is one, i'm really uncertain,,
I think its safe to say, that maybe you too were commited to your wedding vows. They had meaning, as well as a purpose. WIth this in mind, i'm left wondering how something now can be looked at as such disrespect. Are affairs disrespectful? Im ny opinion, not only are they disrespectful, but they do hurt. They hurt deep, right to your most inner core.
I'm curious,, as i'm wondering if by chance there's any part of you, that can accept any responsibility of any affairs, pertaining to your husbands. I'm not referring to his decision to allow such selfish behavior. But what part "if any" responsibility can you, or do you accept? I'm not saying its your fault, i'm only curious where your thoughts are with this subject. Do you understand?
I too believe in standing by my stbxw, and recovering our marriage. I do have an "Open Heart Policy." Maybe mine to is my own little fairytale fog. I as well loved my wife with all of my heart, and never had the desire, or the thought of cheating. Never. Although i was accused of it a few times.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Today I can see how delusional that thinking was. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm not sure if i'm understanding this, sorry. ?? Dilusional thinking about rebuilding your marriage??
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If someone loves you, they don't have a desire for someone else. So I see that he couldn't have loved me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree! Although i also can disagree. If sexual fulfillment is ones top emotional need, then unfortunately, infidelity can and will continue to happen, until couples are better educated regards to relationships, Before! they are to be married.
We could take one of our school subjects, remove it and replace it with Marriage Inventory classes!
Yes maybe you should have this,or should have that,, but you choose to do it the way you did.
Did you believe that you were doing this for a reason? Maybe its a fact you should have kicked him out long before,,, maybe that would have helped, maybe it wouldn't have. Maybe you could have or should have, grabbed him by his ears, or maybe in an area that would "grab" his attention, and demand that he stop his selfish acts! Would that have helped the situation?
I'm wondering, are you being to hard on yourself.
SO whats the verdict? Angry, and bitter.
I still will share with you, "its never too late."
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