deja vu again! - Marriage Builders® Forums

Posted a few weeks back that x is dating after her divorce last year from om.

She is already bring him around the kids, at least my son. Son is telling me what a great guy he is, he has his own business and airplane and is going to take my son flying and will sponsor him for the Junior Eagles and is getting grandpa a certificate to go flying, etc.

She already asked if she could bring the kids back early on Easter because she got invited to dinner. Guess she can't be bothered taking them herself.

I thought I had already gone thru this crap! Just when I think she is turning back into the old Carol I knew, she does this.

To top this off, my boss now wants me to travel for a week out of my territory since my workload is low. I've been able to put this off for almost 5 yrs but don't think I can this time.

That means letting x have kids for a week. I guess I'll have to look at her schedule and pick a week she is only working 3 of her 12 hrs shifts.

This week for the 4th year in row she is not taking any time off when the kids have summmer vacation!

This BLOWS!!

You know that, if you shave a leopard you will find that the spots go all the way to the skin. The skin will be spotted, too. That's why they say a leopard can't change its spots.

I find it hard to believe she is taking no time off with them during their summer break from school. Strange - but last year my x took only 1 of his 2 weeks.

Some people are good reasons why there should be retroactive birth control.

Being a mother myself, would be impossible for me to not take time off for the kids. Just shows where her priorities are. Since her marriage to the om didn't work, she is on the prowl for another fun time.

I would imagine that whomever she finds to date, will not meet her quota once she is married. The newness dies, and the old return sets in.

My ex is with the ow, and I imagine that he will be marrying her sometime soon. She is nothing to be proud of, but that is his cup of tea.

I for one, am not dating anyone. I want my life in order, I want myself in order. I am reading a book on my emotional childhood, and trying to better myself. I also have 2 other books to read, after school is over at the end of this month. Before I even start to date, I am bettering myself for me. To be a better spouse, and to be a better parent. The old me, wants to leave, and present the new me.

I would say, that your wife has a few issues to deal with. Too bad for the kids. Yeah, so the new date has an airplane. This is going to be old stuff soon. Sorry that she hasn't found herself yet. Pray for her, and the kids. God does care as well as you do.

The thing that bother me the most about her working over the spring break was that she worked 4 days instead of her usual 3.

She did make a concession sort of and took our son on Tues nite. The new guy took them flying on Wed and she dropped him off at 5:00, no supper of course.

My D called Sat and asked if she could go to church with my g/f and I since it was Easter and she wanted to go as a family. Apparently x has stopped going again. So we picked them up this morning and took them to church and then dropped them back at x's.

D called later in the afternoon and asked if I would take her to practice driving. I said yes and picked her up. I asked where her mother was and she said she went to dinner with a friend. So I asked when they were coming home then and she said her mother's neighbor would bring them home later! So I said just come home now.

I later found out that x had left at 1:00 so she was gone for 5 hrs at least. She never did call to see if the kids got home. I guess she saw that they weren't there so figured they got home.

So for Easter she was around the kids about 3 hrs today. And she calls that shared parenting!

X's now we know why that's what they are!!!!! UGH!!!! Just one of those that I feel kind of close to right now!!! How they can change to such a different person, where they always that person and we were just making them better then what they were or have they just changed to complete idiots that don't care about their kids anymore!!!! UGH!!!!

X came Sat the 20th to spend time with D's for their b-days got here at 6pm left Tuesday at 6 am. But went to visit her family in NY and both parents in FL for 3 weeks without telling the kids at all. When confronted tonight, I asked x if I was expected to take YD to see g-Parents or what? said that she couldn't have gotten out of school for 3 weeks right now, I 'm thinking idiot you could have planned for a different time!!! They are so selfish!!!! UGH!!!

Don't mean to hi jack you here!!! But could just relate to the whole x thing!!!!

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Found out Sun nite that x would not be around on Tues nite when the kids would be there. My d told me that x was going to a concert.

So I assumed she was going with her new boyfriend. Well you know what happens when you assume! Tonite I found out that she went to a Christian concert with a friend( its hard saying friend as they were best of friends and my x dropped the friend like a hot potato during the affair. The friend tried to be there for her, but x wanted no part.)
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I guess what really bothers me is that she is so proud of the fact that she has the kids 50% of the time, but is always leaving them. They are old enough to fend for themselves, but geesh.

I just started doing some things on weeknites when I leave the kids home so I guess it is fair, it still bother me though.