Is visitation always good/did I open a can of worms? - 06/19/04 05:25 AM
And now for something completely different....
My psychopathic liar, emotionally and verbally abusive, convicted child molester husband has not seen his children in 2 years because he a.) won't go to sex offender counseling, b.)we haven't found someone to supervise visits that we both agree on, and c.) communication has been difficult due to a no contact order against him.
Well, the NCO expired June 3 and he promptly wrote to me about finding someone to supervise visits and btw, would I hem his drapes? I said no to the drapes. However, I know a women from work who has had training from DHS in supervising visits, so I asked her if she would set up a visit for Father's Day at the local car show in the park. She said yes and called him.
Of course, he insists that the visit be IN HIS HOME, so he can have a big party for them. Needless to say, it annoys me that he will have a big party and presents for them when he is $7,000 behind on child support. Plus, I don't think she is safe ....at least emotionally......there, as he is very chauvenistic and resents authority. So, I said no, public place or nothing. Haven't heard back yet.
My friends, boss, crisis counselor all say I should have nothing to do with him at all, he's evil and won't change. I feel bad as he is the children's dad and I wish they could have a good relationship. I know it's not likely to happen.
I got a letter from my ex today asking why I was so "afraid to let the kids be with me for more than 3 hours", saying that "someday the kids will know how you kept them from me" and stuff like that. Emotional blackmail.
I"m really torn as to what to do. Any advice?
My psychopathic liar, emotionally and verbally abusive, convicted child molester husband has not seen his children in 2 years because he a.) won't go to sex offender counseling, b.)we haven't found someone to supervise visits that we both agree on, and c.) communication has been difficult due to a no contact order against him.
Well, the NCO expired June 3 and he promptly wrote to me about finding someone to supervise visits and btw, would I hem his drapes? I said no to the drapes. However, I know a women from work who has had training from DHS in supervising visits, so I asked her if she would set up a visit for Father's Day at the local car show in the park. She said yes and called him.
Of course, he insists that the visit be IN HIS HOME, so he can have a big party for them. Needless to say, it annoys me that he will have a big party and presents for them when he is $7,000 behind on child support. Plus, I don't think she is safe ....at least emotionally......there, as he is very chauvenistic and resents authority. So, I said no, public place or nothing. Haven't heard back yet.
My friends, boss, crisis counselor all say I should have nothing to do with him at all, he's evil and won't change. I feel bad as he is the children's dad and I wish they could have a good relationship. I know it's not likely to happen.
I got a letter from my ex today asking why I was so "afraid to let the kids be with me for more than 3 hours", saying that "someday the kids will know how you kept them from me" and stuff like that. Emotional blackmail.
I"m really torn as to what to do. Any advice?