Road to Heaven Runs through Hell - Old-timer Update - 08/07/04 03:11 AM
I'm an old-timer here on the boards. I don't post much anymore, but I lurk on occassion. Same old stories I see. Gobs and gobs of brilliant insight everywhere for you newbies. Keep drilling it in. Wrap it around you like a warm blanket.
My WS XW married the OM. Divorced a little over 3 years ago. She married the OM almost 2 years ago.
Things have been rough, but I've had the time to undergo tremendous personal growth.
I needed to meet the XW today to exchange D with her. She didn't seem to want to see me as she wanted me to drop daughter at the daycare. (short story about daycare cost, I'm on vacation, etc. clipped)
She's porking out and looking rough with her darkly colored hair and such. If I had met her for the first time today, I would not be attracted to her. She's still whack of course, but hey, the OM signed up for it.
It looks to me that karma is starting to catch up with her. It was her choice though.
My life is on track. There are a few bumps every now and then, but things are going well. I'd like to meet the right woman, but now that I know exactly who I am, I've significantly narrowed down the type of woman I'm looking for. Oh joy. It will happen when it happens and it will be for the right reasons.
You BSs out there. Keep your chin up. They aren't fooling anyone. Cheaters never win. They've put the noose around their neck, tied it to the crossmember, and pulled the lever on the trap door. The only difference is that some ropes are longer than others. They'll all hang themselves in the end. Want another analogy? Train wreck in slow-motion.
Like many have said here before. When faced with a WS, the absolute best thing you can do is work on yourself. Don't stop your life because they've stopped theirs by hitching their happiness to another. Remember that happiness comes from within. The clouds will eventually part.
A great relationship requires two people to grow individually as well as a couple. It's a delicate balance. Get growing yourself and see where it leads. Growing is living.
My WS XW married the OM. Divorced a little over 3 years ago. She married the OM almost 2 years ago.
Things have been rough, but I've had the time to undergo tremendous personal growth.
I needed to meet the XW today to exchange D with her. She didn't seem to want to see me as she wanted me to drop daughter at the daycare. (short story about daycare cost, I'm on vacation, etc. clipped)
She's porking out and looking rough with her darkly colored hair and such. If I had met her for the first time today, I would not be attracted to her. She's still whack of course, but hey, the OM signed up for it.
It looks to me that karma is starting to catch up with her. It was her choice though.
My life is on track. There are a few bumps every now and then, but things are going well. I'd like to meet the right woman, but now that I know exactly who I am, I've significantly narrowed down the type of woman I'm looking for. Oh joy. It will happen when it happens and it will be for the right reasons.
You BSs out there. Keep your chin up. They aren't fooling anyone. Cheaters never win. They've put the noose around their neck, tied it to the crossmember, and pulled the lever on the trap door. The only difference is that some ropes are longer than others. They'll all hang themselves in the end. Want another analogy? Train wreck in slow-motion.
Like many have said here before. When faced with a WS, the absolute best thing you can do is work on yourself. Don't stop your life because they've stopped theirs by hitching their happiness to another. Remember that happiness comes from within. The clouds will eventually part.
A great relationship requires two people to grow individually as well as a couple. It's a delicate balance. Get growing yourself and see where it leads. Growing is living.