Checking in and D-day anniversary tomorrow - 07/15/02 04:41 PM
It has been so long since I have posted, I sort of ran scared a while back when there was some nasty stuff going on.
Well, tomorrow (7/16) is the 2 year anniversary of D-day. I am waiting for something magical to happen within myself. I believe I was told near the beginning of my pain and healing that it took two years. Life has been good but not perfect, I fear a lot and have moments of obsessive thought about the whole thing. My H seems to have just moved on, he does everything right mostly. We have some differences when it comes to parenting but this is totally unrelated to the affair. However despite how he does everything "right" and is attentive to our family my love is just kind of hangin' in there. I'm not sure if I am conveying what I feel correctly but that is the best I can do. I'm just sort of going through the motions as far as our relationship.
I know a lot has to do wiht the limbo status of whether there truly is an OC or not, or if there was - is it his or not. Then to add to this H had a vasectomy done the end of April against my wishes. (I sat in the waiting room the whole time and cried) We have two children and are very happy with them but I just didn't want to be so final yet. So that has put a big old damper on the sex drive. Then I think to myself - Geez, he is so scared to have another C with me he gets fixed - where was the fear two years ago?
Okay, now I am getting myself all worked up. Happy D-day to me - right!?!?! I also have the post vacation blues today and am PMSing, so I am a mess.
Hello - to everyone and anyone who may remember me.
Carrie
Well, tomorrow (7/16) is the 2 year anniversary of D-day. I am waiting for something magical to happen within myself. I believe I was told near the beginning of my pain and healing that it took two years. Life has been good but not perfect, I fear a lot and have moments of obsessive thought about the whole thing. My H seems to have just moved on, he does everything right mostly. We have some differences when it comes to parenting but this is totally unrelated to the affair. However despite how he does everything "right" and is attentive to our family my love is just kind of hangin' in there. I'm not sure if I am conveying what I feel correctly but that is the best I can do. I'm just sort of going through the motions as far as our relationship.
I know a lot has to do wiht the limbo status of whether there truly is an OC or not, or if there was - is it his or not. Then to add to this H had a vasectomy done the end of April against my wishes. (I sat in the waiting room the whole time and cried) We have two children and are very happy with them but I just didn't want to be so final yet. So that has put a big old damper on the sex drive. Then I think to myself - Geez, he is so scared to have another C with me he gets fixed - where was the fear two years ago?
Okay, now I am getting myself all worked up. Happy D-day to me - right!?!?! I also have the post vacation blues today and am PMSing, so I am a mess.
Hello - to everyone and anyone who may remember me.
Carrie