Am I the crazy one? - 06/25/11 08:48 PM
Hi there,
I am new here and seeking some advice. A little about me, I am male 35 years young successful professional, married for 16 years have 3 children age 16, 14 and 10. A beautiful wife.
Now:
I am 80% sure my wife is cheating on me, I have some proof, I wanted to work on it because I still love her. She is 37 years old and also has a job.
Events:
In March I found out she is send naked pictures of her to her mail co-worker, I confronted her and she said it was a onetime deal and it will never happen again.
April, I found an email she send to the same co-worker indicating how much she wants to have sex with him and that there is another guy she is in love with how is married, but she won�t break up a happy marriage and just wants sex with the co-worker she send the pictures.
May, we are on and off, wanting divorce and wanting to reconcile, according to her she never had sex with another guy.
Later, I discover another email send to her own work address on how to have a successful affair and what to consider.
I confronted her again, and she kicked me out of my house.
We reconciled again, and only me to see her coming out of a restaurant with a different guy, she saw me watching, blew up at home and kicked me out again,
She served me the papers to sign and basically wants to destroy me, she extremely angry and wants out, she said I am a controlling freak, and that she can live like this. There is so much more to it but this is a start, I don't know if I should try to reconcile, or go with the divorce and start over. Not really my first option.
Any advice appreciated.
AustrianH
Thank you!
I am new here and seeking some advice. A little about me, I am male 35 years young successful professional, married for 16 years have 3 children age 16, 14 and 10. A beautiful wife.
Now:
I am 80% sure my wife is cheating on me, I have some proof, I wanted to work on it because I still love her. She is 37 years old and also has a job.
Events:
In March I found out she is send naked pictures of her to her mail co-worker, I confronted her and she said it was a onetime deal and it will never happen again.
April, I found an email she send to the same co-worker indicating how much she wants to have sex with him and that there is another guy she is in love with how is married, but she won�t break up a happy marriage and just wants sex with the co-worker she send the pictures.
May, we are on and off, wanting divorce and wanting to reconcile, according to her she never had sex with another guy.
Later, I discover another email send to her own work address on how to have a successful affair and what to consider.
I confronted her again, and she kicked me out of my house.
We reconciled again, and only me to see her coming out of a restaurant with a different guy, she saw me watching, blew up at home and kicked me out again,
She served me the papers to sign and basically wants to destroy me, she extremely angry and wants out, she said I am a controlling freak, and that she can live like this. There is so much more to it but this is a start, I don't know if I should try to reconcile, or go with the divorce and start over. Not really my first option.
Any advice appreciated.
AustrianH
Thank you!