Why does ILYBINILWY usually mean an affair? - 12/09/11 10:00 AM
I was listening to some old radio shows and happened to listen to 11.11.2010 show where Dr Harley explained why is it that when a spouse says �I love you but I�m not in love with you� that it usually means that s/he is having an affair.
Well, I thought it was just sad statistics, but Dr Harley explained that by using his concept of contrast effect. When your spouse tells you that he is no longer in love with you, it usually means that there IS someone to whom he IS in love with right now, otherwise he wouldn�t know what it FEELS like to be IN LOVE. You don�t know what it is to not be in love unless you are in love with somebody else.
Thought it might be useful piece of knowledge for newcomers.
Well, I thought it was just sad statistics, but Dr Harley explained that by using his concept of contrast effect. When your spouse tells you that he is no longer in love with you, it usually means that there IS someone to whom he IS in love with right now, otherwise he wouldn�t know what it FEELS like to be IN LOVE. You don�t know what it is to not be in love unless you are in love with somebody else.
Thought it might be useful piece of knowledge for newcomers.