Live-in partners who cheat - 03/09/12 12:16 PM
Just wanted to get some feedback on the �moral� position of exposing cheating when the couple are not married, but live together.
Like many MBers, I would never sit back and let a married person suffer unwittingly if I knew their spouse was committing adultery. I would warn the betrayed spouse immediately, even if I did not personally know them. I would feel completely justified in doing this, and any remarks that it was �not my business� would not trouble me at all.
Is it still right to interfere if the couple are only living together? No vows are being broken, it is not adultery and for all I know they have an open relationship.
If there are children involved, I guess that makes it much more serious, because the cheating is threatening to break up a family.
The reason I ask is the more familiar I become with MB, the more often I see warning signs that someone is straying. I know quite a few cohabiting couples where one partner appears to have terrible boundaries. I am not in a position where I know of any cheating yet, but it is likely that I could be.
I have seen a few people on these boards say that anyone unmarried is free to keep their options open until they make that vow and commitment. I thought it made for an interesting MB debate.
What would you do?
Like many MBers, I would never sit back and let a married person suffer unwittingly if I knew their spouse was committing adultery. I would warn the betrayed spouse immediately, even if I did not personally know them. I would feel completely justified in doing this, and any remarks that it was �not my business� would not trouble me at all.
Is it still right to interfere if the couple are only living together? No vows are being broken, it is not adultery and for all I know they have an open relationship.
If there are children involved, I guess that makes it much more serious, because the cheating is threatening to break up a family.
The reason I ask is the more familiar I become with MB, the more often I see warning signs that someone is straying. I know quite a few cohabiting couples where one partner appears to have terrible boundaries. I am not in a position where I know of any cheating yet, but it is likely that I could be.
I have seen a few people on these boards say that anyone unmarried is free to keep their options open until they make that vow and commitment. I thought it made for an interesting MB debate.
What would you do?