Sorry to all the Veterans that helped me in my darkest hour. I followed the Exposure advise during my WW affair back in October and when I thought it wasn't going to work... it did. I know the hand of God was guiding me along and I firmly believe he put this source before me. It stopped the affair dead in its tracks. WW was extremely irrate and beligerant and wanted D etc etc. She hit ROCK bottom and that is when she realized how bad life was gonna be.

Good news is - its changed our lives for the better. God has played a huge role in healing. We share everything now and she is crazy for me again. Our kids our much happier as we are happier. My faith has grown to a level where it just needed to be. I believe God puts things in our lives that will turn us back to Him. He knows what will hurt so bad that it leaves one looking for Him as there is no where else to turn.

Thank you MelodyLane, Pepperband and all the other Vets. After 6mos I thought I would jump back on and encourage others to take their advise. GO NUCLEAR on the exposure - wide spread so they must face the truth everywhere they go. I don't think my W would still agree with this as she was to the point of suicide but it was the place she reached before she realized how wrongheaded she was about the whole A and the sin that roots itself into their brains. Its a trap. I pray everyday for protection of our M and I encourage everyone to pray with their spouses. Evil hides in darkness and lies - expose the truth and put it in the light.

God Bless all of you
MrA

Bravo to you, MrA!! Thanks for the update!

MrA, I am so glad that it worked for you. Thank you fro coming back to give that much needed push for others to do the same. Stories like yours helps.

Keep up the good work.

MrA! How good to hear from you! I'm so glad to hear that the exposure worked so well for you.

So how are the two of you recovering? I know Dr. Harley's book "Surviving an Affair" was suggested to you. Did you get it? Are you both reading it?

What is your recovery plan? This is very important. You can't just go back to business as usual. You need to have a PLAN in place to protect your marriage.

Did your WW write a No Contact letter to OM? Have the two of you discussed Extraordinary Precautions and the need to establish firm boundaries?

Please understand that you can't just kill the affair and then life's good. Doing so will leave you vulnerable to another affair.

Catch us up on your plan for recovery.

Good job on exposure!