Sad to be back.... - 03/20/13 11:54 PM
Hi all... I'm an oldie returning after a bit of hiatus.... (Old timers will remember me as ABR before I was discovered on this site...)
So, quick back story, few years ago, H had an EA, with very little PA. Did my plan A, ended up in plan B. H realized he was stupid, and came back.
Fast forward to last month. His company hired a new girl. Young, fresh out of college. She's been working on and off with my H. (He telecommutes, so he isn't in the office, and there are several states between him and her). He's told me about her, at least as much as he wants to... Told me he was keeping things professional, and that she had a BF else he wouldn't feel as okay talking to her.
Recently, I noticed he was getting more loving towards me. Kind of surprising, but very welcome.
Then it struck me, something wasn't right. Alarms started going off. So, I start to snoop. H knows I know his emails and passwords, that I may occasionally snoop, etc. So, I noticed, I thought he had been emailing this girl a bit more than he would an average coworker. But, couldn't find anything. Then looked at the sents. Saw an email that was a little more personal that he should have been. Ok, fine, but again, bells start going off more.
Then, after the weekend, I went to snoop again in his email. The email in the sents was gone! Who REALLY deletes their sent emails? Especially just one??? anyone?!?
So, looked in the trash. H didn't think to delete the trash (to my happiness AND saddness). Been keeping copies of the emails - definitely bordering on inappropriate. And they skype - have I mentioned I really HATE skype between this and the crap that happened a few years back - and apparently since I was home last week they had to keep their conversation professional, and thinking about using "code words" in case they have to keep things professional. 2
I am now looking to record his conversations, because obviously I'm missing more, shall we say interesting, conversations they have.
I've busted out my SAA book, really working on a good plan A to get his mind back to me and us and such. I just wanted to get back on here cause I am in need of support again. I'm going to keep snooping right now and get more evidence.
Sad to be back, but hello again....
CD
So, quick back story, few years ago, H had an EA, with very little PA. Did my plan A, ended up in plan B. H realized he was stupid, and came back.
Fast forward to last month. His company hired a new girl. Young, fresh out of college. She's been working on and off with my H. (He telecommutes, so he isn't in the office, and there are several states between him and her). He's told me about her, at least as much as he wants to... Told me he was keeping things professional, and that she had a BF else he wouldn't feel as okay talking to her.
Recently, I noticed he was getting more loving towards me. Kind of surprising, but very welcome.
Then it struck me, something wasn't right. Alarms started going off. So, I start to snoop. H knows I know his emails and passwords, that I may occasionally snoop, etc. So, I noticed, I thought he had been emailing this girl a bit more than he would an average coworker. But, couldn't find anything. Then looked at the sents. Saw an email that was a little more personal that he should have been. Ok, fine, but again, bells start going off more.
Then, after the weekend, I went to snoop again in his email. The email in the sents was gone! Who REALLY deletes their sent emails? Especially just one??? anyone?!?
So, looked in the trash. H didn't think to delete the trash (to my happiness AND saddness). Been keeping copies of the emails - definitely bordering on inappropriate. And they skype - have I mentioned I really HATE skype between this and the crap that happened a few years back - and apparently since I was home last week they had to keep their conversation professional, and thinking about using "code words" in case they have to keep things professional. 2
I am now looking to record his conversations, because obviously I'm missing more, shall we say interesting, conversations they have.
I've busted out my SAA book, really working on a good plan A to get his mind back to me and us and such. I just wanted to get back on here cause I am in need of support again. I'm going to keep snooping right now and get more evidence.
Sad to be back, but hello again....
CD