New Here in Dire Need Of Help!!!!! - 12/24/13 01:53 PM
Merry Christmas all-
I am new here so please forgive me if this post is lengthy as i am not yet familiar with all the abbreviations. My H and I have been married for 11 years since i was 19. we separated a year later bc i was lacking in the sexual arena. since i was only 19 i was not very seasoned sexually. my h begand sleeping w ow on his job. i begged and pleaded for him not to leave me and my one year old daughter at the time but he did anyways. future contact with him did no good at at all it just resulted in him getting frustrated and becoming violent with me. Needless to say i loved my h dearly and refused to get a divorce from him. we ended up getting back together five years later. we had another child in 2009 after 8 years of marriage. shortly after my h sexual performance (or should i say the lack thereof) caused me to enter into an adulterous relationship in 2011. my h discovered the relationship and told me if i didnt stop he would leave. i tried to stop the other relationship but i went through a very depressed withdraw period but eventually stopped talking to the om. We started marriage counseling to work things out. Shortly after, i found out that my husband too was having an a two as a matter of fact. Now my H is the tit for tat type of guy so i believe he was doing this to get back at me for what i had done. Once we got over all of those issues i thought we were at a point where we were finally happy in the marriage. then last year after going on vacation to celebrate our 10 year anniversary when we arrived back home my husband told me he had to resign from his job due to him being found out about by embezzling funds. I was very angry with my h, one for the embezzlement and 2 for putting our family in this bad situation. I stopped speaking to my husband after about 3 months of him not wanting to get another job and thinking he could gamble professionally and squandering the family's savings. i eventually got in an a with om that was also married. My h eventually found out and begged me to stop. He also began seeing ow and having sexual relationships outside the m. one woman in particular he started seeing a few days before my birthday and ironically enough her b-day is about 4 days b4 mine. He spent her bday with her and did nothing for me for mine. I found out about her and he told me that he would not continue anything with her however i never told him that i wanted to make our m work. finally in july i realized that we were to distant from one another and told him that i wanted to make the m work. he told me NO and that he no longer wanted to make it work. I immediately knew someone was in the picture. he denied tho. I found out he purchased a new cell phone that i knew nothing about and had been still seeing this woman. she knew about me bc i called her on one occasion b4 when my h never came home bc he was with her. its now december and he is now living with her. he doesnt give me any money for the two children adn acts like he completely hates me. He has even told me not to call him anymore. What do i do?? There are more details to this story and i will be more than happy to share. I just really need help!!! I want my husband back...
I am new here so please forgive me if this post is lengthy as i am not yet familiar with all the abbreviations. My H and I have been married for 11 years since i was 19. we separated a year later bc i was lacking in the sexual arena. since i was only 19 i was not very seasoned sexually. my h begand sleeping w ow on his job. i begged and pleaded for him not to leave me and my one year old daughter at the time but he did anyways. future contact with him did no good at at all it just resulted in him getting frustrated and becoming violent with me. Needless to say i loved my h dearly and refused to get a divorce from him. we ended up getting back together five years later. we had another child in 2009 after 8 years of marriage. shortly after my h sexual performance (or should i say the lack thereof) caused me to enter into an adulterous relationship in 2011. my h discovered the relationship and told me if i didnt stop he would leave. i tried to stop the other relationship but i went through a very depressed withdraw period but eventually stopped talking to the om. We started marriage counseling to work things out. Shortly after, i found out that my husband too was having an a two as a matter of fact. Now my H is the tit for tat type of guy so i believe he was doing this to get back at me for what i had done. Once we got over all of those issues i thought we were at a point where we were finally happy in the marriage. then last year after going on vacation to celebrate our 10 year anniversary when we arrived back home my husband told me he had to resign from his job due to him being found out about by embezzling funds. I was very angry with my h, one for the embezzlement and 2 for putting our family in this bad situation. I stopped speaking to my husband after about 3 months of him not wanting to get another job and thinking he could gamble professionally and squandering the family's savings. i eventually got in an a with om that was also married. My h eventually found out and begged me to stop. He also began seeing ow and having sexual relationships outside the m. one woman in particular he started seeing a few days before my birthday and ironically enough her b-day is about 4 days b4 mine. He spent her bday with her and did nothing for me for mine. I found out about her and he told me that he would not continue anything with her however i never told him that i wanted to make our m work. finally in july i realized that we were to distant from one another and told him that i wanted to make the m work. he told me NO and that he no longer wanted to make it work. I immediately knew someone was in the picture. he denied tho. I found out he purchased a new cell phone that i knew nothing about and had been still seeing this woman. she knew about me bc i called her on one occasion b4 when my h never came home bc he was with her. its now december and he is now living with her. he doesnt give me any money for the two children adn acts like he completely hates me. He has even told me not to call him anymore. What do i do?? There are more details to this story and i will be more than happy to share. I just really need help!!! I want my husband back...