Help with wifes EA - 07/26/21 02:13 PM
Hi everyone
What should I think if my wife did the following:( I discovered all this on an old phones messages)This happened 5 years ago but I only discovered it a couple of months ago
She deflects, blames me, adamant the were only friends and she did not do anything wrong.Below is the facts, would you also be upset and feel betrayed?
Hid a friendship with a co worker after I told her that he likes her.
6months after honeymoon started picking fights,avoiding me and focusing on minute flaws Ive had for 4 years prior together
Withheld intimacy and sex as punishment for said flaws
Complained to friends about me and her marriage
Discussed my private issues, marriage problems and complained on the shoulder of this guy
Spend a lot of time at work, and avoiding the house as I'm there.
Totally missed my problems and well being
Around a year after this started the guy was married and moving abroad
She told him she has feelings for him but wont cheat at a wedding I was with her.
6 weeks later it was his farewell party, she made up an excuse and we never attended.
The next day she was crying, in bed, messaging friend on how sad she is etc etc and she sent him a farewell message telling him how wonderful he is, he understood her like few others , his wife is a lucky woman, she loves him and will miss him terrible.
1 month later she downloaded 12 self help video on how to save a marriage after an emotional affair.
I believe she loved this guy, why else would she betray me and confess feelings to him....and I feel like the backup plan.
Am I wrong?
What should I think if my wife did the following:( I discovered all this on an old phones messages)This happened 5 years ago but I only discovered it a couple of months ago
She deflects, blames me, adamant the were only friends and she did not do anything wrong.Below is the facts, would you also be upset and feel betrayed?
Hid a friendship with a co worker after I told her that he likes her.
6months after honeymoon started picking fights,avoiding me and focusing on minute flaws Ive had for 4 years prior together
Withheld intimacy and sex as punishment for said flaws
Complained to friends about me and her marriage
Discussed my private issues, marriage problems and complained on the shoulder of this guy
Spend a lot of time at work, and avoiding the house as I'm there.
Totally missed my problems and well being
Around a year after this started the guy was married and moving abroad
She told him she has feelings for him but wont cheat at a wedding I was with her.
6 weeks later it was his farewell party, she made up an excuse and we never attended.
The next day she was crying, in bed, messaging friend on how sad she is etc etc and she sent him a farewell message telling him how wonderful he is, he understood her like few others , his wife is a lucky woman, she loves him and will miss him terrible.
1 month later she downloaded 12 self help video on how to save a marriage after an emotional affair.
I believe she loved this guy, why else would she betray me and confess feelings to him....and I feel like the backup plan.
Am I wrong?