Finally leaving wh - 01/28/23 01:48 PM
I am finally separating from my WH. Planning to leave next weekend, and he does not know. There are reasons why I must leave instead of asking him to leave. We live in a very old home in poor condition, in an isolated rural area, and I cannot manage by myself here.
He will not know where I am. On the day I plan to leave my oldest son will be here, and someone from church will pick me up. I will be driving a borrowed car for a while, so he cannot find me by driving by and seeing my vehicle. I am going to go to a guest house of a church family till I get on my feet. I have reason to be nervous about this...there was a violent incident about 3y ago, and I have no idea how he will react to this. My pastor has agreed to screen any messages back and forth. We have no children at home. I do not plan to divorce him because of my religious beliefs, merely to live separately.
This is after knowing for 11 years about some of his cheating. More information has dribbled out since, and now I know he is a serial cheater. I did not leave sooner for many reasons, but mainly a codependent relationship. I have finally found and agreed to Dr. Harley's concepts. I am living proof of how women deteriorate emotionally amd physically if left in the situation too long. I feel like I have aged 25 years in the last 11 years.
I am really scared and sad. We have been married 40+ years. I literally went from child to wife. Please be gentle with me!
What am I forgetting to arrange initially?
He will not know where I am. On the day I plan to leave my oldest son will be here, and someone from church will pick me up. I will be driving a borrowed car for a while, so he cannot find me by driving by and seeing my vehicle. I am going to go to a guest house of a church family till I get on my feet. I have reason to be nervous about this...there was a violent incident about 3y ago, and I have no idea how he will react to this. My pastor has agreed to screen any messages back and forth. We have no children at home. I do not plan to divorce him because of my religious beliefs, merely to live separately.
This is after knowing for 11 years about some of his cheating. More information has dribbled out since, and now I know he is a serial cheater. I did not leave sooner for many reasons, but mainly a codependent relationship. I have finally found and agreed to Dr. Harley's concepts. I am living proof of how women deteriorate emotionally amd physically if left in the situation too long. I feel like I have aged 25 years in the last 11 years.
I am really scared and sad. We have been married 40+ years. I literally went from child to wife. Please be gentle with me!
What am I forgetting to arrange initially?