New here - 10/18/07 08:25 PM
I'm not sure where to begin. My fiance and I have been together for 3 yrs, living together for 1 yr and some months. I have a 6 year old son.
The first 6 months were GREAT. After that, my fiance started playing an on-line game so much he neglected us, work, his health, our home, finances...everything. Still, we worked through it all. Things were okay (not great, but its a work in progress, right?) up until 2 months ago.
His excessive gaming came back, which put us on his back burner again. He also started acting weird when he was playing. Got denfensive when I'd ask who that person was on the speaker, would say radomly "that's a guy not a girl", just out of character stuff.
This prompted me to check up on him. I found a post where he was talking about his gaming experiences affecting his life, and said as someone who was "Divorced" and "not interested in dating", gaming was easy for him. He also posted a pic of his kids and my son and stated they lived with his ex.
I was mortified and he didn't get it. I pointed out that it wasn't okay to lie about your relationship status in any format and finally, he agreed and understood my beef.
I'm tired of being neglected and I don't know whether I can forgive his declaration of bachelorhood and freedom. For all intents and purposes, all he has done for the past two months is come home and log onto the game, except for when he graces me with his presence while I am watching TV.
Now I'm drained. This last event seems to be the icing on the cake for me. I don't have anything left to say to him other than the little I've said. Frankly, I don't feel like I have the energy or will to re-engage him in my life once again. BTDT.
I feel like I've run a marathon writing this post. My physical reaction to this problem is exhaustion and stomach irritation (and I have an iron gut), which I know is not good.
I'm not sure what to do... stay, go, whatever. Advice, input, anything appreciated.
The first 6 months were GREAT. After that, my fiance started playing an on-line game so much he neglected us, work, his health, our home, finances...everything. Still, we worked through it all. Things were okay (not great, but its a work in progress, right?) up until 2 months ago.
His excessive gaming came back, which put us on his back burner again. He also started acting weird when he was playing. Got denfensive when I'd ask who that person was on the speaker, would say radomly "that's a guy not a girl", just out of character stuff.
This prompted me to check up on him. I found a post where he was talking about his gaming experiences affecting his life, and said as someone who was "Divorced" and "not interested in dating", gaming was easy for him. He also posted a pic of his kids and my son and stated they lived with his ex.
I was mortified and he didn't get it. I pointed out that it wasn't okay to lie about your relationship status in any format and finally, he agreed and understood my beef.
I'm tired of being neglected and I don't know whether I can forgive his declaration of bachelorhood and freedom. For all intents and purposes, all he has done for the past two months is come home and log onto the game, except for when he graces me with his presence while I am watching TV.
Now I'm drained. This last event seems to be the icing on the cake for me. I don't have anything left to say to him other than the little I've said. Frankly, I don't feel like I have the energy or will to re-engage him in my life once again. BTDT.
I feel like I've run a marathon writing this post. My physical reaction to this problem is exhaustion and stomach irritation (and I have an iron gut), which I know is not good.
I'm not sure what to do... stay, go, whatever. Advice, input, anything appreciated.