Teenage Dtr pregnant - 09/09/08 03:24 PM
Found out two weeks ago that my 16 yo dtr is pregnant. The father is a hispanic 19 yo gang member with shaved head, tatoos all over his body, wears a 'wife beater' shirt and the only job he has is being courier for the local drug dealers. Figure he will be in prison before too long or killed eventually.
Dtr was diagnosed bi-polar last year and was in an institution for 9 mos to get her stabilized and once out - stopped taking the required meds and gets her self in this state.
At first my wife wanted an abortion - I put my two cents in and basically said I would not be party to killing grandkids against our dtr wishes. Now the hard part is what is our plan? In a state of denial at this time but need to devise a plan for our dtr to be productive member of society and making sure the child will be raised properly.
So I am going to ask the wise folks here - is there any links or ideas out there?
I am flirting with the idea to take legal custody to make sure my dtr gets her education completed and any post secondary studies.
Not to mention that this will put my wife back in a state of mid-life crisis or depression. I see her drinking is increasing. I cant say I blame her sometimes - I keep saying we need to pull the family to gether and to develop a plan once we are out of the state of shock.
Dtr was diagnosed bi-polar last year and was in an institution for 9 mos to get her stabilized and once out - stopped taking the required meds and gets her self in this state.
At first my wife wanted an abortion - I put my two cents in and basically said I would not be party to killing grandkids against our dtr wishes. Now the hard part is what is our plan? In a state of denial at this time but need to devise a plan for our dtr to be productive member of society and making sure the child will be raised properly.
So I am going to ask the wise folks here - is there any links or ideas out there?
I am flirting with the idea to take legal custody to make sure my dtr gets her education completed and any post secondary studies.
Not to mention that this will put my wife back in a state of mid-life crisis or depression. I see her drinking is increasing. I cant say I blame her sometimes - I keep saying we need to pull the family to gether and to develop a plan once we are out of the state of shock.