Hi, I have read the website regarding infidelity in marriage. Does this also apply even though a couple is not yet married? I had been with my girlfriend for 9 years and I am having similar symptoms because of my infidelity when we were together. We are currently not together right now and I am having a hard time if I should get back with her (girl A) or with the other girl (girl B).
Hi confused.
So you are saying you cheated on your girlfriend and want to know if you should get back together with her or should go with the woman you were cheating with?
A few things.. It is not the same as a marital affair, there is a qualitative difference in that there is no life commitment there and things aren't "shared" and expected like they are in marriage. Also, does your girlfriend even want you back? If so, why would she? The fact you are even considering the question is a huge red-flag.
What makes you think you have something to offer her after having cheated? She is free to pursue a healthy relationship, and it sounds like you have not broken it off with the other girl yet.
My advise would be to stay away from her and let her move on.