Wife found out about a work trip strip club visit. - 11/06/11 03:46 PM
Last week when I was away on a work trip the younger guys I was with wanted to go to a strip club on our way back from a brew pub that was some 30 miles from our hotel. I am new to the job and the work site but these guys are regulars to the site (and the club apparently)... I told them I didn't want to go - I am a happily married man but it was 20 miles from our hotel and I didn't want to be the fun police and have them drive me back to the hotel (we only had one car)... I figured it was harmless enough and so long as my wife didn't find out it would be fine (bad attitude I know...) Well she did find out (I don't know how)!!! When she asked me about it I confessed. Now she is mad as all hell hasn't talked to me for 5 days and is sleeping in spare bed... (She has been away on a girls w/e this w/e so that has been some respite for both of us.)
To make matters worse she had a hysterectomy about 4 weeks ago so is feeling bad about that too..
We had a really good relationship until now. We met about 5 years ago when both of our first marriages had just broken up and we married this past April. We spend basically all of our spare time together. The only thing I typically do without her is the odd game of touch rugby and go on bike rides occasionally (we even bought a tandem that we ride together now...) I very rarely go out without her (happy hour once every couple of months but she is always invited anyway as most of my friends are her friends too). I'm not the kind who does lots of stuff without her or regularly frequents clubs and stuff - this is the first time I have been to a strip club since my early twenties (now 47). Our sex life is normally really good - I am more than happy with what I have at home.
I know she thinks I look at other girls too much - even when we are watching stupid shows on TV but its not like I want to go hook up with them - I know she looks at other men too but she always says that's different - its only like music stars (Tim McGraw...) and stuff and she knows she would never have a chance with them...
I don't to make up for this indiscretion - it seems like it is going to break us up as she is never going to forgive me (let alone forget it...)
Any suggestions on how I should make it up to her would be appreciated...
To make matters worse she had a hysterectomy about 4 weeks ago so is feeling bad about that too..
We had a really good relationship until now. We met about 5 years ago when both of our first marriages had just broken up and we married this past April. We spend basically all of our spare time together. The only thing I typically do without her is the odd game of touch rugby and go on bike rides occasionally (we even bought a tandem that we ride together now...) I very rarely go out without her (happy hour once every couple of months but she is always invited anyway as most of my friends are her friends too). I'm not the kind who does lots of stuff without her or regularly frequents clubs and stuff - this is the first time I have been to a strip club since my early twenties (now 47). Our sex life is normally really good - I am more than happy with what I have at home.
I know she thinks I look at other girls too much - even when we are watching stupid shows on TV but its not like I want to go hook up with them - I know she looks at other men too but she always says that's different - its only like music stars (Tim McGraw...) and stuff and she knows she would never have a chance with them...
I don't to make up for this indiscretion - it seems like it is going to break us up as she is never going to forgive me (let alone forget it...)
Any suggestions on how I should make it up to her would be appreciated...