Daughter wants to marry a serial cheater - 03/01/17 08:11 PM
H everyone,
Background
5 years ago my D (21 at the time) got involved with a serial cheater 20 years her senior while she was living with me. She has no other family but me. He admitted to more than one affair in 5 years of marriage. I exposed the affair. I told her to give him up or move out. She did. I assisted his wife with evidence during their divorce. I've had no contact with her until the divorce was final. I still don't have contact with him. Our relationship as a result has been strained since.
Although he's almost 50 y/o, he acts like a teenage boy verbally and intellectually. I know how he treats a wife. He openly disrespects me.
Now at 26 5 years later, she wants to marry him. She wants me to accept him and their marriage or end our relationship.
To my knowledge he has not cheated on my daughter. However, she had commented that other women hit on him. To me that means he's sending signals. She claims she doesn't me because I don't trust him. Being around him, has not been good for my health.
They seem to be a package deal. I'm torn whether to accept this man into my life to keep my D in my life or let her go. I know she will need me. It's only a matter of time.
Any thoughts?
Background
5 years ago my D (21 at the time) got involved with a serial cheater 20 years her senior while she was living with me. She has no other family but me. He admitted to more than one affair in 5 years of marriage. I exposed the affair. I told her to give him up or move out. She did. I assisted his wife with evidence during their divorce. I've had no contact with her until the divorce was final. I still don't have contact with him. Our relationship as a result has been strained since.
Although he's almost 50 y/o, he acts like a teenage boy verbally and intellectually. I know how he treats a wife. He openly disrespects me.
Now at 26 5 years later, she wants to marry him. She wants me to accept him and their marriage or end our relationship.
To my knowledge he has not cheated on my daughter. However, she had commented that other women hit on him. To me that means he's sending signals. She claims she doesn't me because I don't trust him. Being around him, has not been good for my health.
They seem to be a package deal. I'm torn whether to accept this man into my life to keep my D in my life or let her go. I know she will need me. It's only a matter of time.
Any thoughts?