Who is the OW?<P>If a woman meets a man and does not know that he has a girlfriend (this could not work if it was a wife and children involved) and falls deeply and sincerely in love with him and changes her life around to be with him and actually lives with him and after all that discovers the girlfriend in the background - who is the OW? Remember, he knew her first (but kept that to himself).<P>This may seem a very silly question to you wonderful people out there but it is a very serious question on my part.<P>I look forward to the answer(s)

Not a silly questions at all. I presume that you are one of the female parties involved. To answer your question succinctly, you both are the OW. However, the question you should be asking yourself is, do I want to be involved with a man who is so dishonest. He was being dishonest to both of you. He betrayed both of you. Can you believe anything this man says in the future? Dishonsety of this nature is a very unstable foundation to build a any kind of a relationship on. I suggest you do what your usernames says and Move On!<p>[This message has been edited by Mudder (edited January 18, 2000).]

I have to agree with Mudder. If he lies now, he'll lie later...and it will hurt even more then.

Thank you so much for your support and suggestions. I am trying very hard to move on as he continues to lie to me, to her, to you... perhaps?