Today I caught my defacto husband of 6 1/2 years cheating on me for the 3rd time! He has only ever admitted to doing it once, but the other two times I found love letters and a particularly emotional email. He denies both of these things, concocting some fantasy about them being planted (yeah right!) and then turns it around on me and tells me I don't trust him!!! The worst problem is that I just can't leave him! It sounds pathetic, but I love him more then anything in my world. I know he loves me, but I can't understand why he has to do this to me?<P>If anyone has been in a similar situation, I'd love to hear from you. I feel so alone.

youre not alone! That's the good and bad news. You may get more responses over in the infedelity section of the forum.<P>If you want to save your marriage, this is the right place to start. Read over the concepts and then come back for questions and support. You may want to start in the "Just Found Out" section of the infedelity board.<P>cleo