need help and advice - 11/29/98 04:29 PM
Recently my wife chose to cheat on our relationship, approximately 1 month ago. I am in the military, and am stationed in Korea, in a remote location where she couldnt join me. I had been gone about 3 months when this occured, and I have been destroyed. When I left, my marriage was what I thought to be indestructable. We were planning kids, a home purchase, and all that seemed to still be intact until the day I got the call from her, it shattered me. I am a very loving and kind man, and she even tells me how much she loves me still, and how good I was to her. I never became hostile, or overly angry, I simply wanted to know what I could do to make it better, so we could attempt to rebuild what I thougth was perfect. She is telling me that basically she feels she has hurt me to bad, and that she cant live with what she has done. So she is basically giving up on a very loving man and husband, and not giving us a chance to make it better. She has now moved back home with her parents, and they are tempting her with hopes of colege and starting over her life. But what about me, I did nothing wrong, other than be a good husband to her. Now she has messed up, and she isnt giving me or us a chance. If anyone has advice on what I can do, or should do, I would be so greatful. I have such a empty hole in my soul, I fell so helpless. What do I do? shane