Follow-up to my previous post - issues with the board - 08/12/05 04:38 AM
Sorry - I can't seem to be able to reply to the previous thread I started. As a matter of fact - while logged in under my suername - I can't even read the posts. I've got to get that fixed - so here are answers to the questions asked in my earlier post ...
1. From what I understand, his divorce was final in April. I didn't ask in Feb. because he just said he was divorced & I wasn't romantically interested. I didn't learn his divorce was final until sometime in May (I did a check of the public records). He always thought I (I do research for a living) did't ever accept a date because I knew his divorce wasn't final. I just never asked because our conversations about our marriages weren't point blank questions, they only came up during regular conversation.
2. The time line I was given - he had been separated from his ex-wife for a few months before he filed for a divorce, which was in December 04. I don't like to ask people what month they did everything - but maybe I need to?!
3. I have been divorced since Nov '04. I filed in Feb '04. TN has a three month waiting period if minor children are involved. After that, I had to wait to be assigned a court docket date hence the nearly nine month period it took for my divorce to be final. I don't know of anyone who got divorced quickly in this City thanks to the court docket backlog. Additionally - my ex-h and I separated twice 2001 and 2003. In Sept of '03, I did not have money for attorneys fees so I had to wait until an wonderful IRS refund check came available! My ex-h was in Sept '03 living with his OW & OC. I do understand the point you are trying to make in the time allowed for someone to adequately heal, but I'm not quite sure that a 2 yr window is an accurate reflection for everyone. By Nov'03, I realized that I was no longer in love with him and needed to move on. My ex-h had at least 5 affairs that I knew of and an OC. It was simply too much damage in order for it to be fixed.
My ex-h and I are now very civil for the sake of our daughter. But there has been no talk on either side for reconcilliation.
I think I got everything - did I miss a response to anyone?
1. From what I understand, his divorce was final in April. I didn't ask in Feb. because he just said he was divorced & I wasn't romantically interested. I didn't learn his divorce was final until sometime in May (I did a check of the public records). He always thought I (I do research for a living) did't ever accept a date because I knew his divorce wasn't final. I just never asked because our conversations about our marriages weren't point blank questions, they only came up during regular conversation.
2. The time line I was given - he had been separated from his ex-wife for a few months before he filed for a divorce, which was in December 04. I don't like to ask people what month they did everything - but maybe I need to?!
3. I have been divorced since Nov '04. I filed in Feb '04. TN has a three month waiting period if minor children are involved. After that, I had to wait to be assigned a court docket date hence the nearly nine month period it took for my divorce to be final. I don't know of anyone who got divorced quickly in this City thanks to the court docket backlog. Additionally - my ex-h and I separated twice 2001 and 2003. In Sept of '03, I did not have money for attorneys fees so I had to wait until an wonderful IRS refund check came available! My ex-h was in Sept '03 living with his OW & OC. I do understand the point you are trying to make in the time allowed for someone to adequately heal, but I'm not quite sure that a 2 yr window is an accurate reflection for everyone. By Nov'03, I realized that I was no longer in love with him and needed to move on. My ex-h had at least 5 affairs that I knew of and an OC. It was simply too much damage in order for it to be fixed.
My ex-h and I are now very civil for the sake of our daughter. But there has been no talk on either side for reconcilliation.
I think I got everything - did I miss a response to anyone?