Hello again folks.

I have a question that I would like to put to this forum.

My girlfriend wants me to go to dinner tomorrow night with her brother and his family. They are visiting from out of town.

Is it fair of her to expect me to pay?

Most likely it would be her brother and I splitting the tab.

I think it should be her brother and HER splitting the tab.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Why do you think she should pay? b/c she invited you? If so, I see where you are coming from.....

BUT

is your g/f a traditional type? Is her family? It just seems more chivalrous to have "the man" pay, especially in front of her family....I know, I know, we are women, we want you all to hear us roar, but *most* us girls still can appreciate "gentleman-like" behavior.

Yes, we can be a complicated lot <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Expect you to pay? No. If I invited my bf to dinner with my family, I would think I'd be paying, no question. It's kinda not really a "date" in the traditional sense. Course it does depend on how you've handled these things in your relationship, too.

She invited you, she should pay. I would!!!!

Dawn

Call me old fashioned.

You are the guy and in a sense, you are also the host, as the brother and family are 'visiting'.

Bring your credit card and be prepared to pay the bill. (I hope he has a small family) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

If brother steps up and offers to pay all or part of the bill, great. If not, don't sweat it. What goes around eventually comes around.

I also think that you need to discuss the money issue with your GF. It's obviously serious enough for you to discuss it here. Better to discuss money issues while in the GF/BF stage rather than wait until the relationship is more serious.

If it's a GF (not just a second or third date), I'd offer to pay for myself and the GF.

AGG

How about asking her what her expectations are?
We've had various responses to the date dinner question, and this is a little different. Rather than worry, wouldn't this be a time to just ask her?