Okay, I want to know if anyone here has dealt with, or dated someone with commitment phobia? Please let me know your experiences. I do not think I have a problem with commitment, but seem to attract men who do.....

I've basically dated 5 women since EXWW left. Now this is obviously exagerating, but 2 basically wanted a ring after the second date. 1 thought she wanted a boyfriend, but rekindled some high school relationships with some single girls and decide she'd rather be a party girl for now. 1 was too recent a widow, thought she was ready, and fell apart after a month. The last girl I dated was a senior in nursing school and raising a daughter alone. 2 months into the relationship, after a month in a half of not doing anything together other than meeting for lunch a few times, using MB principles I tried to let her know I was struggling and could use some reassurance about the relationship. I didn't DJ or make demands or anything, just tried to let her know how I was feeling and wanted to talk about it. She kicked me to the curb and told me she missed her ex boyfriend and she had daddy issues.

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Dating's just hard. I've truly met some wonderful people. It's finding someone that's remotely in the same place as you that's the catch.

I actually have a new dating problem. I think I'll go start a thread, LOL!

Are you sure it's really FEAR of commitment? Maybe it's just plain old DISLIKE of commitment.

You can't make anyone want more of a relationship than they want. If you want more of a relationship with this person than he is comfortable giving, you should probably move along.

I doubt you attract men with commitment problems. I think it's more likely you fail to move on early enough when it becomes clear that you and the other fellow are not on the same page.

This is a very correct statement, in my humble opinion. One thing that makes it kind of messy is that 2 people always are on different levels in the relationship until the commitment for life is made. So, for me, I guess when the hope is gone that your partner will not want to move to the next level is when I would move along.

It tests your patience, I am sure. Good luck and remember not everyone is cut out to give you commitment.

It's also possible that a man simply don't want to make a committment to you. How many men (and women) have said "I don't believe in marriage. I don't want to get married," only to get married when the right person comes along?

After my first marriage I was very wary committment. While I dated Mike exclusively, we went very, very slowly. I was happy that he was also wary of committment because that clued me in that making a committment was a big, hairy deal to him. Neither Mike nor I was willing to make a committment to anyone who was less than perfect for us.

If/when I decide to date, I will be wary of making a committment. I will weigh each step in the relationship carefully.