legalism and spirit lead - 09/04/10 06:48 PM
I realize this is not a christian site but...
I've generally leaned and hung out with people who lean toward the legalistic side. I'm trying to change my ways some. I've been single for 9 years. When I was married for thirteen years my husband was continually unfaithful. We had a pattern going. He would've stayed with me forever and continued in it but I divorced him. I got a lot of opposition from the church. I went through the divorce alone but with God and feel it was the right thing for me. During the marriage I was in support groups with other women and men going through the same thing. What I had and saw was a lot of bible reading/believing, praying going to church husbands with problems with prostitution, pornography, unfaithfulness but in church they could walk the walk and talk the talk and blend in like anyone else.
During my 9 years of singleness I've dated. But I haven't really been attracted to anyone who recipricated until now. He is catholic and I'm conservative Christian. I attend a charismatic church that my kids love. I love the people however, I'm afraid that my friends and loved ones will judge him and my relationship with him. I admit I would've judged someone else in my shoes. He can't walk the walk and talk the talk but he is Christian. He has integrity and morals. Jesus came for us to have life and life abundantly. This relationship satisfies me. I'm not going ot compromise my morals in it. I don't know what this relationship can offer to God or the Kingdom of God but it makes me happy. I'm just bracing myself for the opposition which is easy for me to do cause I wouldve been the one opposing if I was on the outside looking in at this. Does anyone have any thoughts, words of wisdom, to offer my situation.
I've generally leaned and hung out with people who lean toward the legalistic side. I'm trying to change my ways some. I've been single for 9 years. When I was married for thirteen years my husband was continually unfaithful. We had a pattern going. He would've stayed with me forever and continued in it but I divorced him. I got a lot of opposition from the church. I went through the divorce alone but with God and feel it was the right thing for me. During the marriage I was in support groups with other women and men going through the same thing. What I had and saw was a lot of bible reading/believing, praying going to church husbands with problems with prostitution, pornography, unfaithfulness but in church they could walk the walk and talk the talk and blend in like anyone else.
During my 9 years of singleness I've dated. But I haven't really been attracted to anyone who recipricated until now. He is catholic and I'm conservative Christian. I attend a charismatic church that my kids love. I love the people however, I'm afraid that my friends and loved ones will judge him and my relationship with him. I admit I would've judged someone else in my shoes. He can't walk the walk and talk the talk but he is Christian. He has integrity and morals. Jesus came for us to have life and life abundantly. This relationship satisfies me. I'm not going ot compromise my morals in it. I don't know what this relationship can offer to God or the Kingdom of God but it makes me happy. I'm just bracing myself for the opposition which is easy for me to do cause I wouldve been the one opposing if I was on the outside looking in at this. Does anyone have any thoughts, words of wisdom, to offer my situation.