Have you heard of this before? - 05/07/11 01:44 AM
Hi Guys
As some of you may know I volunteer at a Divorce Recovery Group and occasionally some of the guys want someone to talk to. I recently had a coffee with one of the guys who is trying to get over his separation with his wife. His wife currently is living with her new boyfriend. He told me he still meets occasionally with his wife and they are still being intimate.
I have stressed to him he should be having no contact with this woman if he is hoping to recover his marriage. However he says he cannot help himself and still wants to meet with her when he can. I told him he is sabotaging any chances he may have to recover his marriage as he is allowing her to cake eat big time.
My question is "WHY?" What is it that would cause a person to do this? Is there some psychological factor that would cause a person to do this? Have any of you run into this situation? Were you able to get through to them? What were you able to say that was effective in getting the concept through? Any ideas on how to get through to this guy?
Blessings
BCBoy
As some of you may know I volunteer at a Divorce Recovery Group and occasionally some of the guys want someone to talk to. I recently had a coffee with one of the guys who is trying to get over his separation with his wife. His wife currently is living with her new boyfriend. He told me he still meets occasionally with his wife and they are still being intimate.
I have stressed to him he should be having no contact with this woman if he is hoping to recover his marriage. However he says he cannot help himself and still wants to meet with her when he can. I told him he is sabotaging any chances he may have to recover his marriage as he is allowing her to cake eat big time.
My question is "WHY?" What is it that would cause a person to do this? Is there some psychological factor that would cause a person to do this? Have any of you run into this situation? Were you able to get through to them? What were you able to say that was effective in getting the concept through? Any ideas on how to get through to this guy?
Blessings
BCBoy