I think people read too much into stuff and make it more pressure on themselves. I've had guys bring flowers on the first date so I never thought anything of it other than as a nice gesture.
Your comment brings two things to my mind. The first is that not everyone thinks the same way. The second is that I have always thought it
appropriate to bring a small gift/token on a first date.
But I have also been aware that there is a certain
level to which such gifts rise. Bringing a small bouquet of spring flowers in a vase is (to me) quite appropriate. But bringing a dozen roses with fern and baby's breath is not. Why? Because roses (particularly red roses) convey a deep feeling -- love. Highly inappropriate on a first date!
Of course, that's the way
I think. I'm sure there are some guys who wouldn't even
think of bringing anything on a first date. And there are women like you who take it all in stride and don't care one way or the other.
If you read (or remember) my thread on
The Art of the First Date, you will see that I was taken to task for "sending the wrong message" by bringing gifts to the woman I was dating. Wow, did that ever shake my belief system!
My point, on this too-long rambling post, is that not everything is black-and-white, and that Valentine's Day gifts for people who are in the very early stages of dating, can be very trepidatious.