Question about dating... - 07/09/12 05:02 PM
I don't post much anymore but guess it is time...
Over the last 3 months, I have been hanging out with a nice lady that I have known �casually� for years but have gotten to know her very well recently.
I am an avid cyclist and she is new to the sport so I asked her to go with me a few months back. Now we bike all the time together. I have taken her out to dinner several times and have had her over to my place for dinner. We have also bought each other some small gifts occasionally. Many times after our rides, she hangs around to chat also.
She is very independent, never married, and works long hours at her family business (that her parents own). To be honest, I have never met anyone as independent as her. Living in a small town, I know she has dated others from time to time but not for a while now. And living in a small town, everybody thinks we are a couple because we are together so much.
During the last several months, we have created a very nice friendship. She tells me if she has had a bad day, or if something bothers her, etc. So we definitely have created some trust between us.
However, she has not given any indication that she wants this to go romantic (or I am too stupid to notice that she wants it to). But I can usually pick up on signals and just don�t see that she is sending me any.
Not sure what to do??? I don�t want to try to take it to the next level and lose a good friend in the process. But I do NOT want to a lose a wonderful girlfriend either by not doing anything!
Do I just keep doing what we are doing??? Hanging out, dinner, gifts, visting, biking? A little confused on this one!
Over the last 3 months, I have been hanging out with a nice lady that I have known �casually� for years but have gotten to know her very well recently.
I am an avid cyclist and she is new to the sport so I asked her to go with me a few months back. Now we bike all the time together. I have taken her out to dinner several times and have had her over to my place for dinner. We have also bought each other some small gifts occasionally. Many times after our rides, she hangs around to chat also.
She is very independent, never married, and works long hours at her family business (that her parents own). To be honest, I have never met anyone as independent as her. Living in a small town, I know she has dated others from time to time but not for a while now. And living in a small town, everybody thinks we are a couple because we are together so much.
During the last several months, we have created a very nice friendship. She tells me if she has had a bad day, or if something bothers her, etc. So we definitely have created some trust between us.
However, she has not given any indication that she wants this to go romantic (or I am too stupid to notice that she wants it to). But I can usually pick up on signals and just don�t see that she is sending me any.
Not sure what to do??? I don�t want to try to take it to the next level and lose a good friend in the process. But I do NOT want to a lose a wonderful girlfriend either by not doing anything!
Do I just keep doing what we are doing??? Hanging out, dinner, gifts, visting, biking? A little confused on this one!