how do you know if you can trust someone? - 07/23/12 10:22 PM
I have had a 15 year younger man chasing me relentlessly for 7 months as I have just tried to stay friends. I met him about 3 years ago at the grocery store where he worked and we were pretty friendly when I came in to shop, but I was trying to work out a relationship with my preschooler's dad and didn't consider myself "available" and he didn't think it was appropriate to ask out customers. He left that job and I didn't see him for a couple of years, but I ran into him again around the end of 2011. We chatted and caught up with each other in a different store where he saw me and came to talk to me. He asked for my pone number and I said "no" then he asked if he could be my facebook friend and I said he could. I am pretty sure that I saw his friends list at first. I have been on 4 or 5 dates with him and talked on the phone and texted.
Well, I am not having great luck finding someone to have a relationship with.I told him I would be his "girlfriend" on a "trial basis" and see if we can both get our primary needs met. I wanted to go on his facebook page and see who his girl friends are and ask him about them. I told him OPENNESS and HONESTY are crucial. I could not find his friends list. I wonder if he is hiding it from me. I don't think we need a very long "probationary period" for me to know if I feel good about this guy or not. I have had 2 long term relationships with men who had major issues I knew about before I got involved. My husband, I chose to be involved with because I loved him so much. My preschooler's dad I chose to get involved with because I was just looking for a temporary distraction while I was hoping my ex husband's new wife would leave him. Well, everything blew up in my face when I got pregnant with the man I thought was just a temporary distraction.
I am very much gun shy. I don't want to worry if someone is hiding anything. I have almost all of Dr. Harley's books.
Just fishing for advice. This guy keeps telling me how wonderful I am and he has been so patient and persistent, but for all I know he is seeing other girls. I don't have much time, and he stays busy, too with work and school.
This is the first time I feel in control. My ex husband kept me beaten down and I felt like nobody would want me and I felt so lucky to be in the relationship with my baby's dad and I always let him know how honored I felt and how I didn't believe how lucky I was. After I got pregnant and had my baby he has engaged in several abusive (not physical) and I have been intimidated, This young guy is different. I feel like I have all the power. I feel like I am in control and he can't hurt me
I just want to know if I am getting involved with a player. Couldn't stand that.
Well, I am not having great luck finding someone to have a relationship with.I told him I would be his "girlfriend" on a "trial basis" and see if we can both get our primary needs met. I wanted to go on his facebook page and see who his girl friends are and ask him about them. I told him OPENNESS and HONESTY are crucial. I could not find his friends list. I wonder if he is hiding it from me. I don't think we need a very long "probationary period" for me to know if I feel good about this guy or not. I have had 2 long term relationships with men who had major issues I knew about before I got involved. My husband, I chose to be involved with because I loved him so much. My preschooler's dad I chose to get involved with because I was just looking for a temporary distraction while I was hoping my ex husband's new wife would leave him. Well, everything blew up in my face when I got pregnant with the man I thought was just a temporary distraction.
I am very much gun shy. I don't want to worry if someone is hiding anything. I have almost all of Dr. Harley's books.
Just fishing for advice. This guy keeps telling me how wonderful I am and he has been so patient and persistent, but for all I know he is seeing other girls. I don't have much time, and he stays busy, too with work and school.
This is the first time I feel in control. My ex husband kept me beaten down and I felt like nobody would want me and I felt so lucky to be in the relationship with my baby's dad and I always let him know how honored I felt and how I didn't believe how lucky I was. After I got pregnant and had my baby he has engaged in several abusive (not physical) and I have been intimidated, This young guy is different. I feel like I have all the power. I feel like I am in control and he can't hurt me
I just want to know if I am getting involved with a player. Couldn't stand that.