Is this normal? - 09/21/12 02:02 PM
I've been dating this great guy for 1.5 months or so. To begin with we talked all the time, texting and calling, with him initiating. That has slowed down a lot. He calls like every other night whereas he began by calling several times a day, then every day, and now every other night. He has two grown children living with him and a grandchild. I know he couldn't keep up the calling all the time, but I just wonder if he's backing off or just comfortable with where our relationship is at this point? It's been 20 years since I dated and I just have no clue what to expect.
We see each other every other weekend when I don't have my kids, and it's kinda been understood since we started dating that we would do this. However, I worry constantly (not just about this - it's my freaking nature to worry). I planned a surprise 'date' for us in two weeks and he seemed ok with it. We didn't talk much about it. So the other night I asked him if it bothered him that I did that and he said no and moved on to another subject. I just worried that he thought I was being presumptuous to plan ahead you know?
I've also noticed that he's less vocal (phone calls and talkative) right after we've seen each other but the closer it gets to our weekend, he's more communicative.
OK, analyze.
We see each other every other weekend when I don't have my kids, and it's kinda been understood since we started dating that we would do this. However, I worry constantly (not just about this - it's my freaking nature to worry). I planned a surprise 'date' for us in two weeks and he seemed ok with it. We didn't talk much about it. So the other night I asked him if it bothered him that I did that and he said no and moved on to another subject. I just worried that he thought I was being presumptuous to plan ahead you know?
I've also noticed that he's less vocal (phone calls and talkative) right after we've seen each other but the closer it gets to our weekend, he's more communicative.
OK, analyze.