Ahhhh! I hate dating!!! - 04/15/13 02:33 AM
I just need to say that dating really really really really stinks!! The men my age are either too gross, too full of themselves, have too many issues, expect too much from me, or otherwise are simply not right for me and my family!!!!!! I just needed to get that off my chest. Thank you for listening.
Just broke up with a man that claims to be a preacher who's wife died a little over a year ago. We met on fb but never met in real-life since we live several states apart from each other. He seemed to be for real, you know... We started talking at the beginning of October and remained in close contact (talking and texting several times a day). I was never real sure about him since it had not been a full year since his wife had passed and he was still very much in the grieving process. What bothered me the whole time is that he had not paid for his wife's funeral and was asking for donations (set-up a fund on fb) to pay for it since she had built up a big hospital bill due to her cancer. He had no means of paying... Red flags right away, but he was very sweet and seemed so real... We spoke for months! He started calling me 'pet' names right away (another red flag.... flattery) and almost wanted us to talk to each other as though we were married and fully committed to one another! I did not like being 'smothered'. He wanted to spend HOURS on the phone with me and would be disappointed when I couldn't. He claims to be a 'history buff' and spent hours walking through the battlegrounds of Chickamagua, GA. It seems such a waste of time when he should be working. Thinking this made me feel judgmental, however. But, knowing that the 'man of my dreams' would fit my dreams and not be this kind of person who looks to others to pay his debts and fill his responsibilities made me realize that I am allowed to be judgmental when I am looking to find that 'right man'... I know I am rambling and probably not making much sense, but I am frustrated at the moment and knew I could get it off my chest here. I am not sad that I broke up with him. Not at all... I am just frustrated that he got to me and duped me. There was that part of me that was hoping that he would have been 'THE ONE'. Too many red flags and even when we were still talking, he started showing interest in another woman (probably because he wasn't getting any money out of me)!! Why do I even try??
Just broke up with a man that claims to be a preacher who's wife died a little over a year ago. We met on fb but never met in real-life since we live several states apart from each other. He seemed to be for real, you know... We started talking at the beginning of October and remained in close contact (talking and texting several times a day). I was never real sure about him since it had not been a full year since his wife had passed and he was still very much in the grieving process. What bothered me the whole time is that he had not paid for his wife's funeral and was asking for donations (set-up a fund on fb) to pay for it since she had built up a big hospital bill due to her cancer. He had no means of paying... Red flags right away, but he was very sweet and seemed so real... We spoke for months! He started calling me 'pet' names right away (another red flag.... flattery) and almost wanted us to talk to each other as though we were married and fully committed to one another! I did not like being 'smothered'. He wanted to spend HOURS on the phone with me and would be disappointed when I couldn't. He claims to be a 'history buff' and spent hours walking through the battlegrounds of Chickamagua, GA. It seems such a waste of time when he should be working. Thinking this made me feel judgmental, however. But, knowing that the 'man of my dreams' would fit my dreams and not be this kind of person who looks to others to pay his debts and fill his responsibilities made me realize that I am allowed to be judgmental when I am looking to find that 'right man'... I know I am rambling and probably not making much sense, but I am frustrated at the moment and knew I could get it off my chest here. I am not sad that I broke up with him. Not at all... I am just frustrated that he got to me and duped me. There was that part of me that was hoping that he would have been 'THE ONE'. Too many red flags and even when we were still talking, he started showing interest in another woman (probably because he wasn't getting any money out of me)!! Why do I even try??