- Do you have at least a couple of photos on your profile? This is important to women: if there's no photo I think "married," "hideous," or "axe murderer."
Yes, I generally have around five photos of myself. Headshot, Suit & tie outside shot, with a male friend for a 5K run, at work with business casual wear, group friends shot, and something silly such as a helping do an improv puppet show for the kids at church.
- Is your profile upbeat and positive? Is it an accurate reflection of your best self? If a man's profile says ANYTHING negative (i.e. "I'm tired of being lonely" or "Where are all the good women" or "I can't believe I've lowered myself to dating online!") I pass him up quickly.
I posted my profile description near the start of this thread, and feel pretty good about it, though I suppose I could expand on it. Let me know what you feel it may be lacking from a reader's perspective.
- Are the emails you send, personal? If a man writes to me but just says, "I like your profile," I ignore him or say "no thank you." He could have sent the same email to 50 women...However, if he says something specific about my profile, then I will respond.
Yes, I generally say hello, explain what about their profile really stood out to me (their faith, humor, outlook on life, job, etc), and mention some common interests of ours that seem promising. Then I either ask them a follow-up question such as "I'd love to hear more about your faith � what have you been learning lately?" or asking them if they'd like to meet for coffee sometime to talk about life.
- Are you writing to lots of women, or just the "four most gorgeous" on the sites? Remember, the prettiest ones get hundreds of emails per day...perhaps you could broaden your nets?
This is a difficult question for me, and I'm open to suggestions. PA is definitely a top EN for me, if not
the top. So while I feel it would be easier to get a date by asking out women I don't find as attractive, I'm leery about even agreeing to dates in which my EN already feels lacking. It seems like I would be coming at it from the wrong angle. Is that poor logic to be using?
- Please define what you mean by "Quality women." I wonder that out of 4 dating sites, you've only found 4 "Quality" women. Unless you live in Nome, Alaska. And if so, you have my sympathies.
Well, by now I've found more women, and have initiated a number of 'smiles' and messages. It's probably more around 8-15 at this point, but being near Portland, OR � it seems like it should be a tad easier than it currently feels.
But to define quality, I would say a very attractive Christian woman in her 20's who lives within 25-50 miles, has a positive personality and outlook on life, and isn't too extreme about loving the outdoors with high-energy activities.