Should I feel guilty that things seem to be better now that my wife is deployed? There are obviously things that are not happening the way a normal marriage should due to distance and poor communication avenues; but I'm not walking on eggshells wondering what she is going to get offended over that I don't think should be an issue.

Guilty that you both seem to be getting along better? Nah. This gives you time to sort out what are your issues personally, as well as what weight the joint problem areas really have, or should have, in your life together.

You might just be confusing concern and worry with guilt from what is past.

Peace to you both if you are away from each other this holiday season.