Deployed only on home on R&R - 07/14/11 10:08 PM
Currently deployed to theater, only on my 1st week of R&R.
My WW had a physical affair the summer of 2009, we followed the book and articles that Dr. Harley has written. We moved to a different state, the whole deal to get away from guy A.
Things have had the ups and downs and I thought we were in recovery but I think we have just been in surviving the affair mode. I had another thread about a year ago talking about this.
Since then I have deployed to AFG last December and I came home this month on R&R and checked the monitoring software. Even though I feel like things have been really good between me and my wife I still don't fully trust her. I am well justified in not trusting her I guess, the software has been running for 6 months and only had the last 99 days of image capture but the keystroke monitor found that she has been having webcam and phone sex with a guy B, she has known guy B before she married me and has always assured me nothing ever happened. I checked out cell phone account and nothing so that just means she has bought another phone, I've been unable to find the phone so far, it's a big house and it could be anywhere really. That is all besides the point I guess.
I guess I'm just a freaking idiot. I'm sitting here trying to figure out what I should and can do! I'm due to leave back in less than a week. I want to say something but at the same time don't want to spend the last week of my R&R sleeping in a hotel away from my kids.
I have to read up on my book again because as things got better I've forgotten a lot of the lessons learned previously. I'm just hurt and confused, she has cried many times when I've been home telling me how she doesn't want me to leave and being away form me is the hardest thing she has ever done...etc I don't think she is faking the funk here but what the hell do I know she is the best liar I have ever met obviously.
My WW had a physical affair the summer of 2009, we followed the book and articles that Dr. Harley has written. We moved to a different state, the whole deal to get away from guy A.
Things have had the ups and downs and I thought we were in recovery but I think we have just been in surviving the affair mode. I had another thread about a year ago talking about this.
Since then I have deployed to AFG last December and I came home this month on R&R and checked the monitoring software. Even though I feel like things have been really good between me and my wife I still don't fully trust her. I am well justified in not trusting her I guess, the software has been running for 6 months and only had the last 99 days of image capture but the keystroke monitor found that she has been having webcam and phone sex with a guy B, she has known guy B before she married me and has always assured me nothing ever happened. I checked out cell phone account and nothing so that just means she has bought another phone, I've been unable to find the phone so far, it's a big house and it could be anywhere really. That is all besides the point I guess.
I guess I'm just a freaking idiot. I'm sitting here trying to figure out what I should and can do! I'm due to leave back in less than a week. I want to say something but at the same time don't want to spend the last week of my R&R sleeping in a hotel away from my kids.
I have to read up on my book again because as things got better I've forgotten a lot of the lessons learned previously. I'm just hurt and confused, she has cried many times when I've been home telling me how she doesn't want me to leave and being away form me is the hardest thing she has ever done...etc I don't think she is faking the funk here but what the hell do I know she is the best liar I have ever met obviously.