Withdrawal phase? - 04/28/12 09:42 PM
I'm considering divorcing. It's horrible, I know. He's deployed. I'm a medical professional, divorced then remarried to a military man with two kids of my own and full custody. He has one child and visitation every other weekend. We were dating for a year and a half and got married. He made my coffee every morning, which was a whole lotta love deposits. He deployed 3 months after the wedding. Since we got married, his ex agreed to visitation with me and we have a court order and I thought it would be nice to continue our relationship during the deployment. Her mother is a narcissist. To prove it, she has accused 6 people in her lifetime of abuse/assault, been committed for attempted suicide, has a criminal public record of aggravated assault (I've seen it online), has 4 children altogether from 3 different men (my husband being the last), has had the state take away and then return her children on suspicion of child abuse. She's never had a job (GED), lives off the state and child support. My husband is a wonderful man. He is certainly a giver, but I can�t help but feel that I�ve been coerced into taking abuse from his daughter�s mother and become her next victim to the benefit of the lawyer, my husband�s capacity to get increased custody, and his mother/sister's control as well. I�m constantly insulted and manipulated via texts/email/regular mail/phone calls. If I don�t put up with it, he loses the custody battle and I feel guilty that I would not have made that happen for the two of them, but I�m tired of putting up with being put down. Just thoughts on your insights to my situation would be helpful.