ma and my wife have been married for only 3 months, immediately after getting married she deployed and i am waiting to deploy myself. i proposed in april 2014 and we got married in july 2014.

i recently found out that she has been cheating on me since may with a guy i warned her about because i knew his intentions. i thought that she had only cheated on me before we got married but then i found out that she cheated while we were married.. i am willing to move on and forgive her because i know she never intended to hurt me but she is telling me to divorce her because i deserve one. i dont want to end this and i am so lost please help..

Welcome to MB and sorry for what has brought you here.

Is OM married? Is he in the military also?

Please read this.
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Sir,

I think you should listen to your wife.
She said to divorce her. She doesnt want to be married.
So file for divorce.
There are many beautiful, loving women in the world that would be willing to show you care.
Good luck

EDIT: You may be able to file for annullment.

It's very early in the marriage for adultery. Recovery takes years. You could be in love with someone else by then.

You also need to be together every night. I would let her go but it's up to you.

Dr. Harley has said quite often in his radio show that the military life is very tough on marriages. A good marriage requires 15 hours every week to meet each others most intimate emotional needs. Overnight separations due to field operations and deployments make UA time almost an impossibility. Separations also increase the risk of infidelity.

Since you don't have children with your wife and have a short marriage, Dr. Harley would recommend that you seek divorce rather than recovery. He would also strongly recommend that you either get out of the military if you want a great marriage in the future or at least make sure you are in a field of service that doesn't require separations.