Would this bother you?? - 03/06/12 04:11 PM
New to this forum. A little background.........
Married to the girl of my dreams for almost 20 years and we have 7 children together.
What I am struggling with is this..........my seventeen year old son has a really good friend of the same age that he spends a lot of time with. Well, it appears, that this friend has a crush on my wife. My wife is very beautiful and has the body of an 18 year old (does NOT look like she has had seven children!!).
Well, this friend has an older model corvette and my wife has taken two rides with him in this car (as you know, the corvette only seats two). First ride I knew about, the second ride she did not tell me about and I found out from my 14 year old daughter! As you might imagine, I was livid!!
This friend and my son are a part of a political group for young people and my wife has taken it upon herself to help with transportation for those who cannot drive. This friend and my wife have exchanged e-mails about meeting times and locations, nothing more. Well over the weekend, I bought my wife a new car and she took it upon herself to e-mail this young man to tell him about her new car. He was on vacation with his family no less when she e-mailed him!! Let's put it this way, her car could rival his corvette.
Bottom line, I FEEL that her e-mailing and texting this young man is inappropriate and should not be taking place. There have been no more 'car' rides since January 13 (probably for obvious reasons). As stated above, she is very attractive and does not look like she is 40 years old. Am I over reacting? Should I just let these actions slide off of my back and move on? I know this kid is no threat to me, but it SURE feels like it.
I have calmly talked to her about how I feel about this and she keeps telling me that 'I don't trust her'. Well, this most recent e-mail was hidden in the trash can so she obviously did not want anyone to see it. Her actions with this young man have put a strain on our marriage. I just want it to stop.
Any suggestions??
Married to the girl of my dreams for almost 20 years and we have 7 children together.
What I am struggling with is this..........my seventeen year old son has a really good friend of the same age that he spends a lot of time with. Well, it appears, that this friend has a crush on my wife. My wife is very beautiful and has the body of an 18 year old (does NOT look like she has had seven children!!).
Well, this friend has an older model corvette and my wife has taken two rides with him in this car (as you know, the corvette only seats two). First ride I knew about, the second ride she did not tell me about and I found out from my 14 year old daughter! As you might imagine, I was livid!!
This friend and my son are a part of a political group for young people and my wife has taken it upon herself to help with transportation for those who cannot drive. This friend and my wife have exchanged e-mails about meeting times and locations, nothing more. Well over the weekend, I bought my wife a new car and she took it upon herself to e-mail this young man to tell him about her new car. He was on vacation with his family no less when she e-mailed him!! Let's put it this way, her car could rival his corvette.
Bottom line, I FEEL that her e-mailing and texting this young man is inappropriate and should not be taking place. There have been no more 'car' rides since January 13 (probably for obvious reasons). As stated above, she is very attractive and does not look like she is 40 years old. Am I over reacting? Should I just let these actions slide off of my back and move on? I know this kid is no threat to me, but it SURE feels like it.
I have calmly talked to her about how I feel about this and she keeps telling me that 'I don't trust her'. Well, this most recent e-mail was hidden in the trash can so she obviously did not want anyone to see it. Her actions with this young man have put a strain on our marriage. I just want it to stop.
Any suggestions??