Am I imagining this, or do many single women nowadays feel less guilt about blatantly making a play for a man who is clearly married? In times past, this was not so cavalierly accepted. Yesterday, while I was bringing my teenage daughter to a medical appointment, my husband decided to stop at a local coffee shop. I met him there when my daughter's MRI was done. He informed me later in the evening that a woman he never met before had sexually propositioned him, and did not even care when he told her he was married! In times past, that would have been enough to put the kibbosh on the would-be seducer's pursuit.
I am fortunate to have a husband who takes his bond with me seriously. He doesn't hide anything from me. I am flabbergasted at how selfish, callous and unfeeling some people, like the woman who approached him, can be. They go after what they want even if it means that someone else will be hurt.

How can marriages be protected in such a hostile atmosphere?

A woman your H didn't know came up and sexually propositioned him? That's a bit unusual, I believe, even in today's sexually oriented world. Most affairs don't start this way; rather, they begin with a friendship of the opposite sex that deepens.

And yes, Dr. Harley has said on his radio show that there are any number of single women who would like to be married and many of them have a hard time finding a suitable male among the single population. The best ones are often already married, so....some will go after a married man.

How to protect one's marriage:

* Make sure each spouse is meeting the ENs of the other.
* Eliminate all love busters.
* Go out on dates and spend UA time together doing enjoyable things together for a minimum of 15 hours each week - no kids, no friends, just you two.
* PROTECT the marriage by instituting Extraordinary Precautions for life: shared passwords, accounting for time and money; avoiding close personal friendships of OS, spend each night together.

In your H's case, he should avoid going to that coffee shop in the future.

I think it goes both ways. I was just at a meat market getting jerky for my H and a man walked up to me and said, 'you know my mom warned me about girls like you, but my dad recommended them.' And then proceeded to try to make idle flirtatious convo with me. And I did have a wedding ring on.

And a baseball hat and the oldest sweatshirt known to mankind, and was covered in mud. Maybe his mom warned him about redneck girls buying jerky?

I just think the world has become very self centered. I don't necessarily think people are seeking out married folks more, but that people in general are more brazen and want what they want, and the fact that someone is married makes absolutely no difference to them in their selfish mindset.

My H's ne'er-do-well youngest (unmarried) uncle used to boast about seducing married women. This guy didn't want to be married; he just wanted some action and if the woman was married, it was less burdensome for him. He could enjoy the action without hitching himself to one woman.

I don�t know if it is changing society or what but I do agree with you whole heartedly, that is what happened in my case.

Certainly I blame my H for �going for it� so to speak but his OW was a single co-worker who not only knew he was married but there was a family portrait of us on his desk at work so when she was in the office you KNOW she saw it but she didn�t care.

Heck even after he broke things off she was trying to call me to find out info about my hubby. My DS finally told her off.

But I think it is selfishness, some people want what they want and they do not care what it takes or who it hurts to get it and I do think society has such a low opinion on marriage and commitment in general. And SEX is everywhere; you can�t watch TV without seeing a hundred half naked people.

To my amazement, many young women today think they are being flattered when a married man comes onto them. They are also flattered when a man comes onto them when they know she is married. I am not kidding. I can't decide if its because of cultural brainwashing or if they are really that stupid.

I agree with Melody, a lot of women are that way. I personally find it offensive.

With that question, you might especially like Dr. Harley's book Defending Traditional Marriage. It's out of print but I think it's recently back in print as an ebook; you can also sometimes find a used print copy online.

Re the coffee shop, the woman approached him outside. He made it clear he was married and had no interest in her.

I may be showing my age here, but it is appalling to me how much tarty/slutty behaviour and appearance is the norm for young women today.

I don't see anything good coming from this.

As for people coming on to marrieds, I think this behaviour has been around for a while, but is increasing.

She may be mentally ill too.
When I was a teenager, a young woman pulled her car over alongside the road I was jogging on and asked if I wanted to go have sex with her. I declined.

I told my dad about it and he said that sometimes women will lure men into a motel room or alleyway where they are then robbed by their boyfriend.

Yes that is true as well.

I do feel that women are far more brazen these days than when I was younger and as Mel said earlier I do not know if it is society or stupidly but there are far more women out there these days that are looking for a one night stand.

I don't understand it.

And in my opinion women are not better off for this so called equality is sexual promiscuity.

TOTALLY agree!!!!