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Just to see how freakin crazy they became.........


After my divorce, my EX said that

"God wanted her and her married boyfriend (affair partner) to be together"

WTH??? I just stood there in silence.

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One of the many was;

"Aren't you glad/happy (?) I was getting some of my ENs met with him?"

another was - "He knows me better than I know myself." Now she gets physically ill when she thinks about him.


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"How dare you spy on me!"

...after I asked a buddy to drive by the apartment and let me know if OM's car was there. It was and I confronted.

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I got "I thought we had an Open relationship!"

WTF was that and Where did it come from.


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What difference does it make if I slept with him one time or everyday.

I wasn't lying to you, I had already forgiven myself for it so it isn't a lie. (I still don't get this one)


BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby


When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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oh the spying I forgot.

How dare you look at the phone bill on line. I threw them away for a reason. You had no right to do that.


BS 38
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D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby


When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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I can laugh after reading these! I remember when it was not so funny!!

My wife said "It's not what it looks like". I had video of them in "Bed in my own house".

You see these things in the movies and you think nobody would say such a thing. I just looked at her and shook my head.

One of my relatives his XW did not work. They had no children and she refused to work and she shopped everyday. He had to work his butt off to try and keep their house.

She got busted by a neighbor calling him and telling him that his wife was sleeping with another neighbor. She was sleeping with 3 guys just in the neighborhood. When confronted she said:

"You know I had a high sex drive, I didn't think you would mind".

We can both laugh at this now but ouch they hurt at the time.

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1) "I didn't lie to you about going out with Office Bimbo! I just didn't tell you!"

2) "Sure, we can use POJA. But only as long as you find a way to say YES to what I want. If you don't say YES, you are controlling me."

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WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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1. "I cheated because I thought you were going to die".

2. "If I had known how badly it would hurt you, I wouldn't have cheated".

3. "We're just friends".

4. "It's not like OM and I had sex every time we saw each other".

5. "Why did you pick him?" to which I reminded her that she picked him, not me. "But why were you suspicious of him and not some other man".

6. When I asked her if she wanted to R she said: "I just want to be roommates".

7. OM was married to WW best friend. When I asked WW if she felt guilty about cheating with BF H, she said: "No, because they had not had sex in over seven years".

8. "I was not the cause of their divorce. OM told me it had nothing to do with me". Right.

There were more comments, but you get the idea...

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"I *DID* stop sleeping with her ... for a while."

(Turned out later it was for 2 days, when he had to work and couldn't make it to her house)


WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5 8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore. 9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A. 10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking. C w/OW continued until ....? MC with SH 11/24, WH says he loves me. Making progress. My own and with us.
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LOL, I remember him sayig some of these too.

IHE-you're right it wasn't so funny then, but here they are!


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Oh, oh, I've got one that I have always loved (not really, but Geez it's a doozy!)

"I'm not currently having a PA, because I want to fall in love with OW before we get physical; I want to be sure she is the 'one'" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

YeOUCH!!


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"I thought you wanted out (of the marriage) so I gave you a Biblical reason."

Would that qualify as a disrespectful judgement? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"Despite what you may think, he (OM) wanted to see our marrige survive" (or words to that effect....heard a variation of that from OM as well).

Gee....saving our marriage by having sex with my wife and then pursuing her?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

There's probably more, but that's all I can think of right now.


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BH (Me) - 38
WW (Magpie) - 31
Married 2001 (Together 8 years)
DS - 13
DD - 5
EA/PA - 9/05-12/05
D-Day - 11/05

Second separation. Working on me.

If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given to you.
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Oh I have one! Actually I had a thread for a while called Dorkisms.

My favourite one that had me slack-jawed in total amazement.

Me: What do you want our R to be like.

Dork: Well I want us to have the same R you have with XX (My first H) YOu are still friends and you like each other.

Me: XX did not cheat on me. He wasn't scr*wing a colleague. He didn not abandon us. AND We went to MC a year before we split up. We made a mutual decsion to divorce.

Dork: WELL! I am doing the same thing only different!

WTF? WTH? HUH?

I burst out laughing and walked away shaking my head.


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Long hard road & at peace now
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He said "I am not making any plans for a future with OW. I am a married man, it would be immoral of me to plan a future with another woman".


Me-41 BS (FWS)
DH-41 WS (FBS)
2DD's- 10 and 12
Married 15 years
Separated for 2 years after my A
Reconciled for 1 year before his A
D-day for his A 8/23/05
WH moved out 9/16/05
Divorce final 1/23/07
Affair ended or month or so later
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6 MONTHS AFTER OUR DIVORCE:

"You're Dating??!?! You're sick!! How could you??"


She was furious! Her immediate respnse was to begin her EA again at work, that I certain never really ended, which went to PA eventually....

1 YEAR AFTER DIVORCE:

"I would appreciate it if you would not come over to pick up kids with 'happy' music playing, you're rubbing it in my face that you're happy"

About Same Time:

Everyone thinks you're a joke, dating a younger woman (I was 39, she was 32- her PA partner?? was 45, she was 32).

My response was quite classic...

"I'm a joke? You're the CFO of a $100 million company dating a saleman, you're creating many more jokes than I am dear, would you like to hear some??" -

That response was what I said when I broke Plan B....I'm not sure but it might have been an LB


Me BS - 44
FWW- 42
EA for 4 years with fellow employee
became PA in Jan 04 - I knew of this one.
Seperated/ Divorced July 03
2 sons 14 & 12
D Day -6/26/04- PA in 1998 for about 1 year- I had NO idea.
recovery and reconciliation began 6/27/04

Remarried 2/18/06

My story?? Click below.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=129980&Number=1575914
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d-day confrontation:

"It's always about YOU isn't it."

"You can't help who you fall in love with."

"It's not an A - I never slept with him." (She did.)

confronted when caught in contact post d-day:

"This is bull$hit!"

OM is not exempt. My all time fave comes from him. On exposing affair details to OMW (she knew before I did but didn't know the extent).

"Wake up to what MDC did to W and I!!!"

She served him divorce papers 2 weeks after d-day on his b-day.

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one more...


After one of many false break-ups when OM was going bat $hit.

"He's going through what you went through a couple weeks ago (d-day)."

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oh and then there's the classic:

"We're just friends."

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My WH and I are separated. I found out some stuff and wanted to know for sure what was going on so I put a recorder at our house; I was the one that moved out.

Two months later he found it and told me that what I heard were some "well rehearsed conversations" because he "knewe it was there all along." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Also that the two VMs I heard on his VM from OW were meant "to get me off the fence. If I thought another woman might want him, I would either commit to work on M or file for D. OW had done that for two of her other male friends. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

"If I didn't love you so much you wouldn't make me so mad."

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