motarman..
I actually do keep reading this...and while I am not in disargreement with what you said..I am having a hard time connecting the dots of how one gets to such a marriage...
or even the coninueal work in progress..

my misunderstanding is that so much of this based on the necessity of pre-existing negative qualities/behaviors to have to exist in two people prior to getting married...and then be rectified post speaking of the vows....

while i understand the sanctifying as in setting apart...
I don't understand the example of changing a wife...as the way to sanctify her...

God not only wants us to be our wives’ savior, He wants us to be Her sanctifier. The word sanctification is one of those big words that basically means “to set apart as unique or special.” In the Bible many times, God took the vilest things and sanctified them for His own use. When a man sanctifies a woman, he sets her apart from her past.

Now, to express this point again…you cannot become a sanctifier until you become a savior. And saviors die! If you want to change your wife, if she is not submitting to you, if she is not living up to her side of the bargain…and you have seen all of your actions and endeavors to sanctify or change her go for naught…maybe it is because you are trying to be a sanctifier before being a savior. The goal of sanctification is to change something from what it is into what it ought to be. But until we men are ready to die (in other words…die to ourselves), then don’t expect our efforts to bring about change that works.

so for a husband to sanctify his wife he must change her???

he must ?? the husband??
and she MUST NEED changing????

and mortarman know that some of the global examples are unjust and present quit a negative of veiw women...be these your opinions or the people that taught this class drive me crazy...

all married woman must be changed..
must need changed
to recieve Gods blessings

these are extremely negative view of women and men....

They thought they were marrying this quiet person…she hasn’t stopped talking yet

He thought he was marrying a submissive woman…she started bossing him around right after the wedding.

sheesh do you really believe that men are that easily duped..

We men had a perspective on what we thought we were getting into and who we were getting into it with…only to be highly disappointed. Many men say “She’s changed.” Actually, what has happened is that she changed back. Back to what she was before she put on her best face for you while you were dating.

this is sooo degrading and stupifying women....as if we all convive and pretend while dating...then turn on men at the honey moon...in to some type slithering snake out to boss them....

and if this whole theory is based on that negative view of women as a reality...
that's what I don't understand and don't agree with...

so know I am not argueing with you to just argue...I just think this is presented with broad stereotypes..

and that while I may agree with premise of Gods desires...the examples of how this is to occur totally disregard people as having much worth... and turn both sexes in clodd-hopping snakey vile individuals....

I AM reading this
over and over and over...

ARK^^