Exposure is absolutely necessary. And they WILL support your marriage should the WH go BACK to you under all necessary MB conditions. They will lose respect, sure, but it can be gained back.

One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.