Well I am trying to get an idea on what the housing is for travel nurses.

I can't get an appt & her be a travel nurse...and then for me to pay half of the mortgage.

I'll have to stay in the house, in order for me to afford it.

Ok, guy...

1. Get your own cell phone and get off of her account.

2. Speak to an attorney about this housing stuff. Your WW is forgetting to include closing costs and the other stuff that you get asked to pay as a seller.

3. If the house loses money on the sale, then you both need to be responsible for covering the difference OR have it already agreed that you'll cover the difference and she'll cover some other debt. See, that's what the decree will figure up.

I would get an attorney lined up and get this stuff formalized. Otherwise, she'll hose you.

Yeah, I am going to see one next week.

I didnt think it would get this complicated.
She'll make a lot of money as a travel nurse.
She just wants to keep all of it & at the same time, make me pay.

**EDIT**

Understood, but how she pays for things is not your problem. What if she ends up working at a Denny's instead?

Pay the money, get an attorney involved and get the assets/debts divided up. There is plenty of stuff that you aren't thinking of because you don't know what you don't know. And there is way too much "verbal agreement" going on here with regards to her spliting refunds with you, etc.

As I mentioned before, you must have something in writing so that you'll have some legal recourse for when she balks or changes her mind on things.

Don't let her problems become your problems, ok?

How long did you stay home? Until your folks left?

By your silence, we kind of figured something was up.

yes I didnt stay long.....b/c of what I mentioned offline to you & some others that contacted me.
It really scared me. I don't want my family to be affected by it either.
(actually I won't let it get that far, I am ready to leave this world if it comes to that.)



Anyway, I'm just trying to get a fair agreement with her & get this toxic person out of my life.

I gave her a written agreement, very basic. The attorney said to do this & that they would then take it & make it a legally binding agreement.

Now I'm going to up the stakes some & get the attorney involved all the way.



I see the true person she is now...

She plans on making money off of me...**EDIT**

She expects to just pay $3600 towards our mortgage & that's it.


Ive accepted that she has always been this way, before I knew her.

What a selfish cheating whore she is.

My plan B is if she doesn't accept a fair deal.

If she doesn't then I am moving back into the house.
I have nothing to lose.



We have the $1800 mortgage in both our names. Like I mentioned, she now wants to be a travel nurse (I think it is b/c she thinks she can run away from all this).

Well, she just wants to contribute $400 a month for a max of 9 months, until we sell the house.

(from my research so far)
Her housing from being a travel nurse is either free or the travel nurse company she works thru will give her a stipend (kind of like a bonus) to use for housing. I've read on nursing forums that it can be about $800 a week.

So, this just tells me that she is trying to make a profit on me.
Her plan is for me to pay $1400 & for her to pay $400 towards our mortgage. **edit**

In essence by her plan, if she gets free housing, she is just having to pay $400 out of pocket of her salary (I would pay $1400).
Or if she gets a housing stipend of $2400 a month, $400 is pocket change in order to keep our house from foreclosing.

She is a **EDIT** either way according to my calculations.

Her name's on the mortgage. She's responsible for half. Do not let her pay that measly $400.

Stay strong, friend.

Someone said this on another forum:

""What might work is if you to find out the fair market rental price of the house. Say that's $1000. Then the two of you split the mortgage amount. So you would each pay $400 a month.

That's pretty much the figures she is suggesting.

Your attorney might have suggested spliting 50/50 to you. But her attorney could argue that you have sole use of the property and hence should pay it all.""


Nope, I wont agree with this. No matter what an attorney says, or judge says. If I can't get it fair, the bank can have it with a foreclosure.

Don't shoot yourself in the foot.

The best way to get even is to be successful. Being successful is also a great way to feel good about yourself. Find ways to gain in this...that is what she is doing. You have to be better at it. Hire an attorney.

Foreclosure happens frequently during a divorce. Avoid it if you can - it'll screw up your credit rating for years.

The fair market value of the house isn't what you can sell it for. Don't make a financial agreement based on 'fair market value' - talk to a real estate agent who knows the area and get the property listed. I don't know where you are to know what your market is like. You may have to take a hit in the current market, maybe not.

I guess I am wondering how the court will decide on a mortgage.

I can live there to repair & fix it u.
I won't have any furniture in it, just a bed. This is so it can be shown by a realtor.

She on the other hand can get free housing or $3000 a month for a place to live.

I dont want her money. I just want her to be responsible for 1/2.

If she didnt get free housing, then we could work out another
deal.


Just trying to get an idea on what the law will do. It just seems unfair, for me to have to pay most of the mortgage when in fact she is living in a free place.

Here are your choices in a divorce action: You keep the house, refinance to get her off the mortgage and buy her out

She keeps the house and refinances to get you off the mortgage (buying you out.)

You sell the house and decide how to split the proceeds. If you're under water on your mortgage, you decide who is bringing what dollars to the closing table.

Who's name is on the Note? That's important.

The court isn't going to 'decide' about the mortgage. The current mortgage will have to be extinguished. That will be the responsibility of you and your wife.

I am a Title Agent. I deal with this frequently.

Both of our names are on the mortgage.

She isn't going to want the house. She wants to get out of town as fast as she can.
Because there are so many men she can meet in these different towns as a travel nurse.

She is busy on the dating site. Emails, chats, messenger...all day long.

She is going to get massages, sitting around drinking wine...basically she is taking all this very well.

Jeff focus on the issue and not on your wife.
Don't allow her behaviors to determine how YOU will feel.
Okay?

I'm trying to.....
It tough to see your wife talk about to someone else...
I've even learned things about her that I didnt know before:

The 3-4 ONS that she had in her youth.....meeting a man online, meeting a paramedic, meeting a guy at a tailgate party....

Even a foursome with other nurses (all friends, male/female) where she did oral with her friend's boyfriend all in the same bed. Later she gave the same guy more oral when her friend was no longer a girlfriend of him. Just for giving her a ride home one night...
Uhhhhm it makes me sick. I want to vomit.

Had I known this, I would have never married her.

We are 5 weeks past DDay...I know she has sent one guy online several photos of her privates in different states of arousal.

She tells the guy, that she doesnt plan on having any ONS in the future.
I want to throw up....
whore..whore

For others that subscribed to this thread, here's Jeff's update:

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2661506&page=1

Jeff,

Even a foursome with other nurses (all friends, male/female) where she did oral with her friend's boyfriend all in the same bed. Later she gave the same guy more oral when her friend was no longer a girlfriend of him. Just for giving her a ride home one night...

She is living a life based on porno films, and she is constantly in a mode where she thinks about achieving her fantasies which will never go away. There is no chance of a lifelong partner here, unless you wish to be a cop for the rest of your life.

God Bless
Gamma