Raven,<P>The thing I would really wonder about is how enthusiastic you are about the activities you are willing to engage in. Although it is commonly accepted that men are only interested in sex, this is wery wrong. The truth is that men are really interested in intimacy with one woman who they truly love and one of the ways this desire is shown is by engaging in sex with a woman. The man believes that he has found true intimacy with a woman when she shows enthusiastic approval for his lovemaking. <P>If a woman refuses her husband's advances or accepts them with a "ok, but get this over with quickly" attitude, the man's need for intimacy is unmet. The man will be physically satisfied, but will still be emotionally empty, but will never admit this. If you remember a time where you had a particularly fulfilling sexual experience and let your husband know, didn't you find that afterwards he was much more open to conversation than normal? <P>I don't have a lot of information about your situation, but try this: As soon as you can arrange it, have the kids at a babysitter's at the time your husband comes home, meet him at the door in the sexiest lingerie you can find, engage in whatever sexual activity you do feel comfortable with, let him know in no uncertain terms how much you enjoyed this and let him know that you are going to need this at least 4-5 times a week. After about 2-3 weeks of this, I would be willing to bet that your husband's computer usage is significantly less. <P>Remember, your husband's ego is inextricably intertwined with his sexuality. If he finds that his wife is enthralled with him, he may tend to find the computer cannot compete with a warm, receptive wife.<P>May the Lord Bless You and Keep You.<BR>John